I recently had a really long conversation with a reader who asked me for advice on what to do about his ailing father who is in debt. I have some opinions here and really want to help, but I’m no lawyer or tax accountant. So perhaps the Financial Samurai community can come together and provide the best course of action.
If you are to read this post, please leave the judging to a minimum and open your hearts and intellectual minds instead. I’ve written the post in a way that best reflects our conversation and the dilemma at hand.
The Situation
My father is 61 years and has been out of work for the past year and a half. He hurt his back, and is currently on disability leave from his job as a construction worker. He lives in rural Pennsylvania, where the cost of living is low, but so are the wages. The most he’s ever made was $35,000, and that’s if he was fully employed all year, which often times, he was not.
My grandmother passed away three years ago, and as the good son, my father paid for the $6,000 funeral himself, even though he has an older sister who could have helped pitch in. My grandma left my father her house, even though he has a small house of his own. With the little remaining money he had post the funeral, he’s been fixing up the house to sell. It’s been a rough road thanks to the economy, and his funds have run out. That was last year.
We had a heart-to-heart last Thanksgiving, and I discovered that not only did my father have no savings, he was $13,000 in credit card debt. His disability insurance of $1,200 provides him enough to scrape by every month, but without a healthy back, he can’t get back to work. He wants to pay off his credit card debt, finish up everything in the house, and just lead a simple life. I sent him some money then, and one more time again this year, but something just feels a little off.
He is eligible for Social Security next year, which I think will provide a boost to his income, but I’m not sure. Are you allowed to receive disability insurance and social security at the same time? I’ve also read that it’s better to wait a little longer to collect social security so that his monthly checks will be higher. But, I’m stressed too, because he has other serious health issues which I’d prefer not to get into.
My father has a lot of pride and he doesn’t want to ask me for money. I know it embarrasses him to ask, even though I am happy to help. I’m not that wealthy myself, but I could afford giving him an extra $500 a month if I had to. I’ll just save less for my own retirement. He feels bad taking my money, but after helping raise me and pay for my tuition, I want to help. I need to help!
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