“What the hell was I thinking going out with him?” the woman cries to her friend as she breaks down in tears. “I can’t believe he’s now with my sister, that asshole!” I couldn’t help but overhear this emotionally destraught woman as I sipped on my lemon water using free wifi. Who knew Starbucks was such a fun place to write?
In a world full of good men, why do women constantly end up with bad men? A man’s biggest fear is becoming a father to a daughter who ends up with a deadbeat loser. If we knew our daughters would always select fantastic men, we wouldn’t be so afraid to have girls! Unfortunately, we are inundated with disaster stories.
Women breaking up with men because they discover they can’t change their man unless he goes through a lobotomy is pretty common. Husbands leaving wives who are mothers to be with younger women is so cliche. It’s hard to imagine it’s been over 20 years since Woody Allen at age 55 pursued 19 year old Soon-Yi. Men are dirty dogs, yet women love us all the same. It’s as if some women are genetically wired to be attracted to trouble.
Let’s go through an exercise to try and understand why women go out with suboptimal men. Altogether this post will have the perspectives of 15 different men and women to better understand “what the hell was I thinking” and save our daughters, sisters and girlfriends from a life of misery.