Where Did All The Time Go?

Looking back at history brings mixed emotions of happiness and fear.  How can it be that 20 years have passed since Pearl Jam was huge and mullets were still in?  It can’t be, can it?  The 90′s don’t seem too long ago, yet so much has happened since.

People say that we’ve just experienced the lost decade, given the lack of returns in the stock market.  I disagree completely.  What’s more important here is ironically nominal increases not “real”.  If you compare what you have now to what you had 10 years ago, I’m pretty sure you have lots more. Heck, some of you may have still been in school or had absolutely nothing but a tit to suckle.  You may have developed a business, or found someone over the past 10 years.  Rest assured you’ve made a lot of progress.

The one thing we have less of is time.  10 years past means 10 years less of life to go.  I think about what I’ve done and what I’m doing in 5 to 10 year blocks all the time.  If I plant the seed now, will the project be worth something in 5 years?  If I slave away at business school part-time, will I be able to leverage the degree and the relationships 10 years down the road?  If I master one guitar song a month, will I be able to play 6 albums worth of songs in 5 years?  The idea is to just start now and stay consistent.  You ignore the short-term tribulations and just focus long term.

The problem is that eventually, we all run out of rope.  That’s when we can only look back and hopefully smile at all the things we’ve accomplished.

A SONG THAT CAPTURES THE QUESTION IN THE TITLE

“Name” by The Goo Goo Dolls

And even though the moment passed me by
I still can’t turn away
Cause all the dreams you never thought you’d lose
Got tossed along the way
And letters that you never meant to send
Get lost or thrown away

And now we’re grown up orphans
That never knew their names
We don’t belong to no one
That’s a shame
But if you could hide beside me
Maybe for a while
And I won’t tell no one your name

 

Scars are souvenirs you never lose
The past is never far
Did you lose yourself somewhere out there
Did you get to be a star
And don’t it make you sad to know that life
Is more than who we are

You grew up way too fast
And now there’s nothing to believe
And reruns all become our history
A tired song keeps playing on a tired radio
And I won’t tell no one your name
And I won’t tell em your name

I think about you all the time
But I don’t need the same
It’s lonely where you are come back down
And I won’t tell em your name

If “Name” was introduced today, I’m sure it would be a smash hit.  Perhaps that’s the idea, to create something that’ll be great, no matter what time period it’s introduced.

Click the below link if you dare hear my attempt to sing “Name” with Mags, my acoustic guitar.  Part of my new year’s resolutions is to play, sing, and record 10 favorite songs.  I’m not quitting my day job don’t worry, but here’s #1!  Thanks Shane Mac for suggesting what mic to buy, and inspiring me to go practice.  Mad respect for those trying to make it as musicians.

“Name” by The Goo Goo Dolls sung by Sam

Readers, what’s your song?  Any acoustic guitar players out there?

For those who are singers, musicians, and visual artists, how do you get over your fear of performance and display?

Any clever ways to make time seem like its slowing down?

Regards,

Sam @ Financial Samurai – “Slicing Through Money’s Mysteries”

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Comments

  1. says

    Nice work on the song Sam, I was worried the singing would be awful when I hit play but you have a good singing voice…. I couldn’t sing if my life depended on it but i enjoy trying (alone by myself :) ).

    I can play a few chords but don’t have a guitar right now… I am thinking of shelling out $50 on a basic nylon string acoustic here in Egypt just to keep a little practice up for the next year… I’ll make the decision after rent is paid this month.

    Good songs / bands tend to be timeless for your own generation and I guess only a few bands transcend generations. Only a very few will last forever like The Beatles.

    I guess though as I get older I fall in love with more bands. Right now my choices normally lie in The Pixies/Frank Black, Pearl Jam, Supergrass (all from my youth) although I am trying to force myself to explore new music…. change and awareness is important for survival, right :)

    10 years has basically been the amount of time I have been an adult…. so everything has changed. I played nice with the normal work/life balance living in London, buying a property and all that stuff… Then I cracked and decided to untemplate myself and have lived in 3 countries since plus I am with my partner of 3 years now and she is extremely clever and I am lucky that untemplating myself led to us meeting….. If she keeps her studies up she will change the world for the better in many ways.

    I got myself in large debt by stupidly getting loans for family members and then them not paying them back, lived for ages in the hope they would start paying and have now taken sense into play and gotten it all controlled under debt management. Strangely the fact that i have been restricted by law from getting any new credit has actually given me a freedom and I am much better with cash now…. I know credit is not an option.

    I don’t have as much money as I used to but I am happy, retirement and emergency funds and such things are being fixed and seeds are being planted now to make the next 10 years a good life profitable 10 years…. bring it on :)
    .-= Forest´s last blog ..Condom Soccer Balls, Not Just For Hard Times =-.

    • says

      Thanks Forest! I’m glad I didn’t surprise you on the downside! lol. It took a lot of time and guts frankly to record this, so I appreciate your thoughts.

      It’s funny how we’re stuck in our youth. It’s emotions and nostalgia that really keep us coming back for more.

      I’m excited for your adventure with your partner! I’m sure you’ll look back and smile at all the good times. Perhaps we really do overestimate the amount of money we need to be happy. Thanks for sharing your story!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..5 Money Habits I Learned That Will Never Make Me Rich =-.

  2. says

    I agree with the general feeling of this post, but not entirely with the conclusion. The suggestion is that, when you are on your death bed, if you can look back at lots of exciting stuff, it will be okay. Not for me. It will not be okay!

    I want to be looking forward, not backward. I want to have a Next Life after this one. Now, if there is no next life, I don’t want to lie about it, I want to face the facts. But if there is only looking back, that’s a bummer and there’s no way of smooth-talking it. Looking back at something that is over is just not that much of a thrill in my book.

    So I spend some time every day thinking about whether there’s a Next Life or not and about what I need to do to be able to look forward as well as to look back. I haven’t got it all figured out by a long stretch. But I do spend a little time every day on that project. And as more years pass through the hourglass, my inclination is to spend a little more time on that one.

    Rob
    .-= Rob Bennett´s last blog ..Pop Economics Pulls Back Promised Guest Blog on Big Fail of Buy-and-Hold (But Please Note Correction!) =-.

  3. says

    “Any clever ways to make time seem like its slowing down?”

    For me, time slowed down when I stopped living paycheck to paycheck. When you are living paycheck to paycheck you NEED time to speed up, you wish for the days to pass.

    No musical talent here…but my fav. song is Downeaster Alexa if you were interested! AMAZING SONG about times changing for a fisherman on Long Island
    .-= Evan´s last blog ..Is Home Remodeling Really an Investment? Is Remodeling Worth it? =-.

  4. Powell says

    The 90′s do feel like yesterday, I wish I could go jump in a hot tub time machine and relieve it all! ;)

    I hope to accomplish 3 things before I die. Everything else is just noise. We do eventually run out of rope, and the good thing is that our good memories get rosier.

    Rob, good luck at looking at your future life on your death bed. I’d rather look back at the things I actually did.

  5. says

    I love topics that discuss time. Time is always on my mind, how to make the best of it, where has it gone, how to spend it, and so on. Such an important topic to be well versed on. A better grasp on the concept of time and how much it can affect your life can lead to much strong short/medium/long term goals.

    Anyway, I am a drummer, usually just jamming out. I don’t really like to play along with recordings. I’m all about making up my own riffs, watching youtube videos of drummers, etc.

    Finally, you sound good!
    .-= MFO´s last blog ..Yakezie Link Rally =-.

  6. says

    When, I graduated from college 9 years ago, I told myself I wanted to become a millionaire by age 30. I’m 32 now and I’m nowhere close. I wish I could go back in time to make better financial decisions, but I can only look forward and make wiser choices starting today. Hopefully, the lessons I’ve learned from past mistakes will help me propel reaching my goal by age…40?

  7. says

    I always considered age to be an incredibly important factor when it comes to wealth building and finances. At the time of writing this, I’m only 21, and I always seem to knock the socks off of people when I tell them how into investing I am. And to think that some people make a claim that over half of retired Americans retire in debt, and that’s a scary thought.

    I’ve got so many years ahead of me.. I’ve got so much to look forward to.. So much to accomplish. I’m still weak now.. But I intend to stay strong.
    .-= Aury (Thunderdrake)´s last blog ..The Hoarding Dragon – The difference between knowledge and experience =-.

    • says

      Aury, good luck with the rest of your 20′s. They’ll go fast! Remember not to over due it in investing. We all have good runs, and bad runs. It gets dangerous when we start believe we are investing geniuses!

      If you know about the importance of personal finance at 21, you’ll do absolutely great.
      .-= admin´s last blog ..Book Review & Giveaway: The Other 8 Hours =-.

  8. says

    Great songs!! The message of this post was an awesome one too! People put way to much emphasis on the short and ubber-short term and lose focus on the end results. They create pressures and stresses that don’t exist in the short term and lose the experience of the ride when the end finally comes. I play guitar too!! Not well but just good enough to get through my favorite songs and try to impress the girl :)
    .-= Nunzio Bruno´s last blog ..When I grow up.. =-.

    • says

      Nice man. Rock on with your guitar! Truth be told, a big part of the reason why I picked up the guitar 10 years ago was to sing to a girl. I had it in my mind that after dinner, we’d go back to my place and I’d sing some tunes. Too bad one has to sing very very well to impress! Otherwise it’s just garble.
      .-= admin´s last blog ..How To Dramatically Increase Your Job Security For Life! =-.

      • says

        Haha thanks! Yeah I’m not really that good and I basically play what I like or learn what she requests but it’s def a blast. I wanted to let you know too that I’ve seen that The Yakezie Alexa Challenge badge a few places and I am totally joining. I’ve installed the bar and figure since I’m already spending a lot of time sharing the love I won’t really have to change anything. I love seeing that other people have similar passions and the funny thing is our voices are all different enough to keep things interesting. So thanks for the inspiration and the explanation of what that badge was about!
        .-= Nunzio Bruno´s last blog ..When I grow up.. =-.

  9. says

    It is crazy how fast things change with the passage of time, these days. At the time of my birth, there was no such thing as the WWW or Internet as we know them today. Information technology didn’t really exist, and typewriters were still in fashion. One of my lifespans before my birth, the world was getting over the horrors and the immense destruction of WW2 and rebuilding. It was the 50s, a time of communist propaganda and of nuclear fear.

    Two lifespans before my birth was in the roaring 20s, before the great depression. Three lifespans before my birth… everyone was still using a horse and buggy to get around and wild indians still lived in the west, though they were fading out.

    That is crazy… if things changed THAT much over just a few decades… imagine what is in store for us, since change is accelerating, not decelerating.
    .-= Kevin@InvestItWisely´s last blog ..Becoming a Rich Man (or Woman) =-.

  10. chubbuni13 says

    I was always partial to “Landslide” by Fleetwood Mac, especially the newer version that they put out for their Acoustic album in the early 90′s. And after performances I’d tell all the girls, “I wrote that… for you”.

    haha, Goo Goo Dolls and their alternate tunings. Can’t remember hearing a baritone lead singer in pop music since the Crash Test Dummies. Nice set, Samurai.

    What equipment do you use to record? Interesting layering technique you have there.
    .-= chubbuni13´s last blog ..The Bride of Frankenstein is Our Gardener =-.

    • says

      Nice dude. I like “Landslide” myself as well. The only thing is, I think I’ve played/heard it one too many times!

      I never thought of myself as baritone. I could try singing in a higher voice, but it would feel a little strained. I love the Crash Test Dummies! “Hmmmm, hmmmmm, hmmmm, hmmmm……” was a good one.

      All I did was use a Blue Mic, and Garageband on the Mac. I record three tracks separately and combined them to get a little bit of dimension to the song.

      Love to hear your stuff one day too!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..Over The Hill At 40 – Age Discrimination In The Workplace =-.

      • says

        Not sure if my reply to you ever made it up ther Financial Samurai..I hope so because it was a big thanks to you for explaining what The Yakezie Alexa Challenge was and why it’s so important. You are def. a motivator!
        .-= Nunzio Bruno´s last blog ..When I grow up.. =-.

  11. says

    Nice song Sam, respect for putting it on here. There really are no rules on FinancialSamurai.com! :)

    Regarding the post, I’m with Rob, I think we play a lot of tricks on ourselves to keep pushing on in the face of the knowledge that it might be to a cliff edge. Google “Aubade by Philip Larkin”. An incredible, sad, beautiful, terrifying poem.

    I don’t want to get started on music and the ’90s or we’ll be here all night. My time.

    On the subject of time, I seem to recall reading some science saying one way of slowing it down is to try to do a lot of different things — don’t do a routine every day. Even just changing your route to work can make a difference. Something to do with how our brain lays down markers or similar, I don’t remember the details and I’ve not really lived like that.

    Not too late to try, perhaps I’ll take Forest’s approach one of these days…

    • says

      Mate, did you just listen to an Outback Steakhouse commercial where their tagline is, “No rules, just right!”??! I bet it was subliminal!

      Love having my own site, b/c there really is no rules. So fun doing whatever I want, and so can you!

      I am going to try a different routine.. one as simple as taking a different bus to work. Thanks for that tip.

      I read “Aubade”, and that is pretty depressing. I wonder if there is an audio version, b/c I’d love to hear Philip recite!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..Don’t Have Children If You Can’t Take Care Of Yourself =-.

  12. says

    Shane Mac here… :). Thanks for the shout out Sam and if that is your first recording then you are set… It only goes up with music. The more you do it the better it gets.

    Rock on man!

    Shane Mac

  13. Live Richly says

    Well Sam, you definitely have a lot of guts for putting your song out there! My husband plays guitar and has been in a few bands but I never learned. This definitely inspires me to take those singing lessons I keep thinking about but never actually take.

    • says

      Hi LR – I thought to myself, “what the hell!” lol. What’s the worst that could happen yeah? It was so much fun getting the mic and figuring out how to mix the three tracks together. I was actually in my garage doing it for half the time.

      Ahh, to be a young whipper snapper in high school again. That would be fun. Take those singing lessons you want, or go ahead and sing with your husband. You guys will have A LOT of fun!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..Over The Hill At 40 – Age Discrimination In The Workplace =-.

      • Live Richly says

        I should do that! I have a Mac with GarageBand already, I just have to drag out his guitar…

        Jennifer

  14. Charlie says

    Hey awesome job! Your guitar and vocals sound great! You should give yourself more credit as a musician. I think I learned maybe 3 cords on the guitar before I gave up and moved on to something else. I love listening and watching people play though – guitar is really cool. …It is pretty crazy how fast time flies. I’m really glad I started keeping a log of all the various accomplishments (big and small) that I do each year. It’s a great way to keep track of what I was doing over a long span of time (my memory’s not what it used to be) and it feels good writing down goals I’ve reached. It also keeps me motivated to stay active if my list in the current year isn’t very big.

    • says

      Oh don’t worry, I’m not that delusional Charlie! It’s just a resolution, and a whole lotta fun.

      A log of the good and the bad stuff is a great idea. In fact, I’ve implemented some Da Vinci code into many of my posts so that I can keep a recording of things going on my life as I write too. Thanks for all your encouragement and participation through all these months!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..The Good Times Are Back Again – The Indulgent List Of Things =-.

      • Charlie says

        it’s been really fun following all of your posts. they’re so creative and informative at the same time

  15. says

    Oh good job Sam!

    My personal favorite as far as a “music and life” song has to be “Cats in the Cradle” – it’s been around forever, but I like Ugly Kid Joe’s version:
    .-= Single Mom Rich Mom´s last blog ..Internet forums – fulfilling or sucking the life out of you? Also some thoughts on being an achievement freak – and being ashamed to admit it. =-.

    • says

      Shoot, hit a wrong key stroke combination. Here’s the song – it’s just a reminder of the passage of time and how important it is to spend time with your kids when they’re young or they won’t spend time with you when you’re old.

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B32yjbCSVpU

      The song that got me back playing piano was the k.d. lang version of Hallelujah that she sang at the latest Olympics in Vancouver:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_NpxTWbovE

      Only problem is that I hear her and am too intimidated to sing because she’s that good. So you won’t be hearing a performance out of me any time soon. :-)
      .-= Single Mom Rich Mom´s last blog ..Internet forums – fulfilling or sucking the life out of you? Also some thoughts on being an achievement freak – and being ashamed to admit it. =-.

  16. Lovingkind123 says

    So sentimental, the post! Great job, Sam, on playing and singing that “Name” song! Didn’t know you can do music, too.

    I was like Rob wanting to know if there is a Next Life. I spent many years searching, and I read books related – many of them written by Ruth Montgomery, Sylvia Cranston, Dr. Brian Weiss, and Mdm Blatvasky. I used to play new age music when I was reading them.

    You know what – some of the music I used to play can still bring me back to the past, then into the future when I listen to them! Music transcends time and space. It is spiritual!

    It’s nice to have MONEY, but money doesn’t do the same… Do you think we can attain the same joy if we make good use of our money? Maybe we can.

    • says

      Lovingkind – Thanks for your thoughts! Who knows what the “Next Life” holds… whatever it is, I hope it’s progress.

      Music really does bring us back to a certain time… it’s such an incredible feel. I think most of us love music, and thank goodness for it. It’s when we try and replicate music, or make our own where we realize, dang, it’s harder than it sounds, and how brilliant many musicians are!

      It’s more fun making good of our money for someone else, for sure!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..5 Money Habits I Learned That Will Never Make Me Rich =-.

  17. says

    You can always make more money, but you can’t make more time. Well, you could maximize your lifespan by making wise choices when it comes to diet, exercise, health care, stress management, etc. But you can’t make more time.

    Set goals, get them accomplished quickly, and enjoy the ride. Its all about HWR – health, wealth, and relationships – they are all interrelated.

    That’s my philosophical moment for this morning:)

    By the way – excellent blog.
    .-= Squirrelers´s last blog ..Squirreling Gone Wild – #4 =-.

  18. says

    Wow… the 90′s were 20 years ago?! I can still remember watching Steve Urkel and other shows on TGIF… Those were the good ol’ days!

    Anyhow, something that helps me kinda slow down time is just take deep breaths throughout the day. And take time to reflect on your life. That way you remember more of what went on during those past years.
    .-= Darren´s last blog ..The Millionaire Next Door | Book Review =-.

  19. Craig says

    Pearl Jam is still a great band, their newest album is really good, they never were forgotten.

  20. says

    Samurai-san – Big picture is important no doubt, but a single focus can result in many missteps and mistakes along the way. Keeping an eye on the road while watching each step gives you the chance to improve and adapt along the way to maximize not only your finances, your time and your life.

    Excellent job on the song. More credit to you to taking the step, that is very cool. No acoustics here. I’ve built one electric so far and another in perpetual design phase. However, I have an acoustic on my bucket list.

    I’ll leave the singing to the talented the stage fright is a breeze though. You have to “own” your material. If it comes from your heart and is something you believe in, your audience will appreciate what you offer. That’s truth. But if you don’t buy that, go to Dale Carnegie’s 12 week program. It’s worth every penny.

    Who still has their pens?
    .-= LeanLifeCoach´s last blog ..Are You Married To A Gambler? =-.

    • says

      I guess “owning” your material means practicing until you don’t even have to look at where to put your fingers, and all the words come out naturally.

      Thanks for your comments. I’m impressed you can BUILD guitars! I’m sure you are being modest and can surely sing and play as well! Snap some pics of your latest models, would love to see em!
      .-= admin´s last blog ..Pretend You Have Arrived So You Can Become =-.

  21. Mike Hunt says

    Sam,

    My comments as a fellow musician:

    1. Firstly, Good on you for putting this out there. It takes effort and confidence and reflects well on you to post it.

    2. On the song I think your phrasing and harmonies during the verse sections are a bit off. Realize you used multi-tracks and a double vocal which does add to depth but the particular harmonies you use and the timing don’t sound that smooth. Also I think the guitar part you are playing in the verse is close to the original line but slightly off. But this is from my memory of the song only, however I can usually remember the exact guitar line so feel confident in saying this. Did you learn this by ear or by tab on the ‘net?

    3. On the positive side I think you nailed the chorus sections. You have a very pleasant sounding baritone voice and can explore more songs in this range- you will do well on several styles and songs.

    4. I’m a musician who plays multiple instruments, writes songs and can sing – however I have a weak sounding voice unless I do a powerful scream- in which case I can sound like Tool (Maynard Keenan), Nirvana (Kurt Cobain), Roger Waters or Neil Young.

    Given that I live in Asia and screaming doesn’t go over well I’d rather have the smooth baritone voice that you have.

    Good on you Sam, and keep jamming. I’m much more happy to be known for being a musician vs successful career guy / money accumulator. The best things in life really are free!!!

    -Mike

    • says

      Hi Mike,

      I looked up the tab, and randomly tried to start figuring out the strumming. I think any experienced musician can ear the somewhat offbeat way in my strumming. I’m definitely not that good, but I think it’s good enough to be able to get some songs out there! What I tried to do was personalize the song to make it somewhat my own. That’s the beauty of music, to sing and be able to play the same basic structure, but in a slightly different way.

      I’d love to hear a clip of you playing one of your songs and singing. Please record one and copy it here in comments! If you could also do a 20 second tutorial on the chords, and strumming pattern, that’d be great too. I’m always looking to play new songs and practice!

      Cheers,

      Sam
      .-= admin´s last blog ..Pretend You Have Arrived So You Can Become =-.

      • Mike Hunt says

        Sam,

        Sorry I’ve not got around to posting a link with me playing- been quite busy and wanted to do this right.

        Mike

  22. Mike Hunt says

    Sam,

    And to answer your questions you posted I do play acoustic guitar as well. At the moment I like playing Led Zeppelin’s “The Rover”, it’s all good fun.

    To overcome your fear of public performance you cannot worry about the outcome, just do it.

    If you would like to slow time down at any time I recommend holding your breath, it will make two minutes feel like an hour. Repeat as necessary.

    -Mike

  23. says

    I’m amazed at your musical talent, mostly because you belittle it so much I just expected it to sound awful but you both played and sang great, no ear bleeding here.

    I’ve mentioned before that I’m an aspiring piano man, and here’s one I really want to learn. I can sing along if someone else plays the piano, which is much more difficult than I imagined.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jByhNAIGFFw

    The lyrics are great too, very thought provoking.
    .-= Jesse´s last blog ..Linkworthy: Prescriptions, Pennies and Dora the Explorer =-.

    • says

      Hey Jesse, thanks man. No big deal. Glad your ears didn’t bleed. Frankly, it was the best I could do. Now I’ve got to record 9 more songs to complete one of my new year’s resolutions!

      The piano is beautiful. I’m amazed how two hands can play independently at once. I’d fail miserably.

      Play on!

      • says

        Ya did great. I’m looking forward to your other 9 songs, maybe we can do a compilation :)

        I’ll be putting my recording up probably next week. I hadn’t made a new years resolution about playing in public as I just started playing in March, but I do want to be able to play for people. I have been playing for anyone that will listen so I can get used to the pressure.

        I, too, am amazed at how two hands, and so many notes, can be played all at the same time and make just a beautiful sound.
        .-= Jesse´s last blog ..How to Boost Your Saving Power =-.

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