If I have one pet peeve in life, it’s when people are late. I absolutely cannot stand it when people are late. My face starts contorting after 5 minutes, and I think about walking out and rescheduling on my own damn time after 15 minutes. If I don’t get a text, e-mail or a phone call with a heads up, you are on my sh*t list until you do something to make it up.
Someone important, let’s call him Dr. Shivago, asked if he could speak to me at 7pm this past Sunday. Given the importance of this individual, I decided to cut my dinner short to focus on this business call. At 7:20pm still no call. At 7:25 I get an e-mail from his secretary apologizing that Dr. Shivago needs to reschedule for another time. WTF! Who does Dr. Shivago think he is, a C-level executive of a Fortune 500 firm? Yes, that he may be, but I don’t care.
All was going well with the business proposal until this incident. I refuse to even consider doing any business with Dr. Shivago until he sends a personal note apologizing for his inconsiderateness. Don’t go asking your secretary to reschedule and apologize on your behalf. Apologize directly to me. Have honor.
A LESSON IN SIXTH GRADE
I was 5 minutes late for 6th grade writing class when Mrs. Lubon scolded me in front of everybody and told me to go sit in the corner. She screeched, “Punctuality breeds credibility!” She also told me to stop snapping bras, but that is a different story. I felt bad for my tardiness, and despite being really annoyed I couldn’t shoot spitballs at my buddies, her life lesson stuck ever since.
There is one simple reason why people are late and it pisses me off. The reason is because they believe their time is more precious than your time. It’s not because they are disorganized, have bad time management skills, or are stupid. Someone who is late is selfish, and believes they are more important than you. There is no other explanation. If you want to be on time, you will be on time.
If you are late to a business meeting, interview, or of anything in importance you can kiss your chances good-bye. Practice saying “buh-bye” to yourself. Say it again and again if you are a perpetual tardy machine. You deserve to fail, and fail miserably at that.
The equally annoying person is the flaker. The one who promises to be there and always bails at the last moment because something always comes up. Since we realize that everything is rational, the reason why flakers flake is because they don’t believe spending time with you is worth it at all. If the person wanted to be with you, they would be with you. We don’t live in a maximum security prison!
Guys, get a clue. After the second time she cancels on you last minute or forgets to call back, forget about it! She simply doesn’t want to spend time with you. If she did, she would be all over you and then some.
Have a two strikes and you’re out rule. Your time is much too precious to bother with people who don’t respect your time. There are literally millions of people in the world for you to meet. Flakers aren’t any of them!
The quickest way to ruining your credibility is being late and flaking. Avoid flakers and tardy people like the H1N1 virus. They are disrespecting you, so you might as well never bother with them ever again.
Readers, what are your thoughts on flakers and those who are always late? Any nice ways to tell them to screw off or at least convey your disappointment? Should I sweep aside my principles and do business with the flaker? What are your pet peeves?
Sam @ Financial Samurai – “Slicing Through Money’s Mysteries”
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