Craigslist is such a fun place to surf and save money. I’ve sold a lot of junk, found some last-minute tennis partners, and even purchased some cool retro Air Jordans on the site. There’s a sale everyday on Craigslist, hence why would you ever pay full retail?
You can even get massively entertained in the Personals Section! No “Woman Seeking Man” post is funnier than the one you are about to read (originally posted circa 2007). The great thing about the post is that it’s all about personal finance!
Thoughts That Crossed My Mind When Reading:
Can’t live with them, can’t live without them.
Does she really think her first post wasn’t a little over the top?
Wow, she is a woman who knows what she wants! Sexy.
So this is where gold diggers roam. Must take notes.
Damn, that guy is funny, but what a prick, no wonder why I didn’t major in finance.
KAPOW, good counter, but why does she have to talk about receding hairlines, that hurts.
Is the counter response someone else? “She” writes a lot, and needs to type shorter paragraphs.
She has a trader boyfriend already! What’s she doing seeking more men?!
Hmmm, better find a way to make more than $500K+ a year!
Enjoy and happy first weekend of the decade!
WOMAN SEEKING MAN: “What Am I Doing Wrong?”
Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy.
I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 – 250k. But, that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. $250,000 won’t get me to Central Park West. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms
- What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won?t hurt my feelings
- Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really plain jane? boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What?s the story there?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows – lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY
Please hold your insults – I’m putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t able to match them – in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
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MAN’S RESPONSE TO WOMAN:
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here’s how I see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful” as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K wasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.
With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way. Classic “pump and dump.” I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
WOMAN’S COUNTER RESPONSE TO MAN! (Is this the same woman responding?)
Dear Sir,
I must confess that I was somewhat taken aback upon reading your email. Indeed, it has taken some time for me to sufficiently recuperate from my surprise. Lest your confidence quickly inflate for little reason (as we know is the predisposition for Wall St. types), allow me to hasten to reassure you that the source of my surprise was neither your candor nor the accuracy of your perception. Indeed, it is your “claimed” success in light of your poor grasp of economics which has me baffled. If the standards required to meet with financial success on Wall St. have sunk so low, perhaps I should indeed “make my own money”, except for the fact that the effort/reward ratio is far too high for my liking – especially when so many of your ilk have displayed a far more cogent grasp of market realities than you have.
By now you are likely scratching your ever-vanishing hairline in confusion, so allow me to elaborate, dear man. To build some credibility I will tell you a bit more about yourself. Though you did not mention the details of your occupation, it is clear that you are an investment banker and not a trader, as any good trader would understand that human courtships are based upon a semi-efficient open market, and not an investment banking cartel. However, your inability to grasp the realities of the dating market is not surprising, given that you have successfully employed the tools of collusion and market manipulation rather that true acumen in your supposed wealth generation.
If your grasp of finance were not a minority partner with your ego, you would realize that the “outflows” associated with my depreciating “assets” are quite certain, and therefore subject to a low discount rate when determining their present value. In addition, though your concept of economics evidently failed to move past the 1950s, advancement in plastic surgery is not subject to the same limitation. Thus, with some additional capital expenditure, the overall lifetime of “outflows” generated by these assets is greatly increased. Sad that Ashton Kutcher has demonstrated understanding of the female asset class which you, in all of your financial “wisdom”, have not.
You, on the other hand, are, given the uncertainty of the Wall St. job market, more of an inflation-indexed junk bond with an underwater nested call option. Though you may argue that you are more of an equity investment, my monetary minimums required from you do not change, and if you are unable to pay them, I will liquidate you without the benefit of a chapter 11, just as you would me.
Because your outflows are so much more uncertain with respect to mine, I require additional compensation in the form of a underwater nested call option on your future assets. I say underwater because, even taking into account the value of your junk bond coupon payment to me, the value of my “outflow” is in excess of the market price of your equity (which is quite low due to its riskiness associated with your poor grasp of finance and my existing claim upon your junk bond coupon).
I must thank you though for raising the question, despite the reputation cost of subjecting your weak logic to such widespread scrutiny. This took either considerable courage or ignorance on your part- and we’ll give you the benefit of doubt, just this once. My current boyfriend (a trader who lives in Central Park West, of course) and I thoroughly enjoyed discussing your response and we wish you the best of luck in your unhappy pursuit of that elusive market inefficiency.
Readers, who do you empathize more with and why? Would you rather be amazingly beautiful as a woman, or filthy rich as a man?
Keiju,
Sam @ Financial Samurai – “Slicing Through Money’s Mysteries”
I empathize with the man. The woman is a clear wackjob. Since I’m a man I don’t know what’s it like to be a woman. I can say if I was drop dead gorgeous woman I would use that asset as much as possible when I was young.
.-= Investor Junkie´s last blog ..2010 Is Here! Where’s the Monolith? =-.
I empathize with neither.
Here’s why: Unless the lady and the gentleman (terms used loosely on both accounts) live in the state of Nevada, they are not talking about love and personal finance, but sex and gambling. Therefore, they are both lawbreakers and prone to breaking agreements.
I rest my case.
.-= Matt´s last blog ..Unleash Your Inner Economist =-.
Don’t feel for either of them, either! Clearly, that woman has LOW SELF ESTEEM to be putting herself out there like that. I applaud seeking love, but her post is CRAZEEEE!
Any guy who’s dating her, who knows that she was the one who posted this would bolt like a bat out of hell.
The guy makes some great points, but he too is a douchebag. However, gotta love his response.
Women are just way too sensitive, and you can see it all around the blogosphere. One little criticism of a female’s post, and she goes all ape-shit. But, those are the women you have to pursue if you just want to have some fun. Shower them with compliments given their low self-esteem, and you will have a lot of fun!
Happy friday!
The Genius
.-= The Genius´s last blog ..An undergraduate think tank? =-.
Absolutely hilarious post – enjoyable read.
Clearly, the woman did not write the response, her boyfriend did, so she gets no points on her retort. So, on a purely objective basis (excluding any offensive remarks), the dude’s reply was right on. If she were all that she portrayed and marrying a 500K earner (not terribly difficult in NYC) were her objective, it shouldn’t be hard at all under her assumption that looks and intelligence are key criteria for such a conquest. Clearly, her ambitions are nefarious, she portrays herself as more attractive and intelligent than she is, and in the end, she’ll end up alone. A very shallow woman.
Consider the context the guy was replying to before you judge him for being a pig. It was rather amusing and he had to translate the situation into financial terms – which can be uncomfortable when mixing in human emotions.
.-= Darwin’s Finance´s last blog ..Weekend Reading – Carnival’s Coming to Town Edition =-.
Being happily married to my best friend and high school sweatheart, I don’t empathize with either. I feel sorry for both. With these outlooks they are not likely to every find what’s truly special about true love and companionship.
As to which I’d rather have bucks or beauty; in god we trust, all others pay cash! It’s a good thing beauty has never paid my bills in the past because I would be on the streets.
Samurai-san – press it one more time. It will work, promise!
On your Samurai Fund, TM just needs to hang on past the bad press. With a #1 and #2 best selling car in America there is still hope. Told you F was a better choice. Maybe I should have changed my blog title!
.-= LeanLifeCoach´s last blog ..If You Believe You Can Achieve! =-.
That was funny. to answer your question, I’m not sure I would want to be either. If forced to choose, I would stay a man.
.-= FinanceDad´s last blog ..Buy fruit and vegetables when in season and on sale and freeze them to save money! =-.
What we have here is a classic case of nonsensical quibbling. She’s already established what she is. By definition she’s a use a throw away product with an expiration date to boot. The real quibbling should be focused on her nightly/weekly/monthly rates.
.-= BawldGuy´s last blog ..Some Changes Comin’ Around Here =-.
That’s an old post that floated around circa 2007.
I wonder if she ever found that “special someone” or if she’s still looking.
It’d be hilarious to get an update given the new economy – has she revised her criteria?
Alas, the unfortunate reality is she probably landed some side gig on a Bravo reality show.
@Darwin’s Finance: bingo! It’s obvious the guy is not being serious based on his response and was egging her on. He was putting it into the same superficial terms she wanted.
.-= Investor Junkie´s last blog ..2010 Is Here! Where’s the Monolith? =-.
That was hilarious! Can you vouch for the authenticity of the story? There was an email exchange between a guy who was a programmer and an acquaintance who had a history of not paying for services rendered floating around the internet a few weeks ago which ended up being a joke but was still extremely funny nonetheless. I’m guessing these posts are real, which makes it all the more funny.
I knew she had to have some coaching for that level of a response. The guy was brutally honest and she couldn’t accept the reality. If you’re going to reduce a relationship to a financial arrangement you should expect that kind of a response. She had to have suckered the “boyfriend” into writing it for her.
I feel sorry for both of them; he has money but is obviously alone or wouldn’t have come across her singles ad, and her primary requirement for a mate is high income earner. Would make me feel good to know as soon as the money was gone she’s out the door.
I would rather have enough to get by with someone who really cares for me than a lot of money and a gorgeous gold digger spouse.
I checked out my local Craigslist Women Seeking Men section and they all sounded like pros. Probably not the best place to look for prospective mates.
.-= David @ MBA briefs´s last blog ..The biggest marketing mistake you can make =-.
And the woman’s response to the man doesn’t appear to be the same person. The writing style does not match.
.-= Investor Junkie´s last blog ..2010 Is Here! Where’s the Monolith? =-.
Surely a joke. But to answer your question, you have to want to be the man these days. The position for women is hugely complicated, and I’m genuinely glad I’m not in it.
This sort of situation is one of the many things I alluded to in my controversial marriage post the other day (in response to your pay and women post). Obviously it’s an extreme case.
Basically, there’s a weird mix of post-feminism mixed up with Jane Austen legacy morality swirling around modern mores, that ensnares even clever women like her. She doesn’t understand what’s changed. Equally, neither do men who don’t understand there’s a 50/50 chance of a financially ruinous divorce. And understanding that is no remedy – this man is surely too cynical to ever be lucky enough to find and sustain a lifetime of true love now.
The whole marriage offer is in tatters. Yes, it can work for some, but it’s a lottery, not the institution of stability it once was.
@LeanLifeCoach had the right idea (I’d say college sweetheart is best, just to get you out of the Zip code). Once you starting looking to upgrade, you end up in the dark place this pair inhabit.
@ Everyone.
Yeah, the validity of the article came into question a lot. I rely on Snopes.com for verification, and its listed as “undetermined”.
https://www.snopes.com/love/dating/golddigger.asp
Wow, really interesting. I’m a guy, so my sympathy definitely lies with him (especially b/c of her receding hairline jab — ouch!). And I think he’s right, that his value will remain, while hers will deteriorate.
She can make all the Ashton/Demi references he wants, but a man who pulls in her requisite amount of cash will not likely be satisfied by the latest and greatest plastic surgery. He will likely want a new model, not a tuned-up version of last year’s model. (I’m not saying I agree with this mentality — I’m just putting myself in Mr. X’s shoes.) I would love to know what’s happened since, to both of these people…
.-= Joel´s last blog ..Are Cars a Dying Technology? =-.
Hmmm, I feel the female subsriber base here dwindling faster than my retirement dollars during the first half of last year!
OK, I’d love to get some female rebuttals/perspectives here. Can all you guys nudge the wives or girlfriends to share their points of view?
Thnx
Any sensible woman would agree she’s a muppet, Sam.
Basically, she is trying to trade her looks (and subliminally sex) about 50 years after that stopped being a truly tradable commodity, as the bloke says in his reply.
From a marriage-material perspective she should have stressed that she was very loyal, her parents were still married, she loves kids, she is self-reliant but better in a couple – maybe that she was a Christian or some other group that scores highly in the staying together stakes.
Instead, she points out she already has a boyfriend (!) and her long history of dating around.
I think it has to be a joke, probably by a fairly misogynistic man who wants to make an unpleasant but somewhat true point about the changing nature of the ‘sex wars’.
Also let me add (gotta stop doing little comments like this) another comment. At the high level yes it’s all very superficial. I didn’t marry for money (or lack of it) but for love and a companion through life’s journey. I never thought I would have married (which is a whole other topic) but found my mate.
If you look at the posting from the psychology perspective it’s not so far off. Men want beauty and can be said beauty equals fertility and strong offspring. For the women they want a guy that has money because that equals security. The guy will take care of her and the offspring.
To flip the posting around, you won’t find on Craigslist “Woman seeing loser with no money, no job and no aspirations” How many responses do you think she would have gotten that way? She was being honest what she was looking for and would appeal to a certain type of guy. Before I met my wife on Match.com, I went right past the ones that failed the sniff test of looking for money.
@Jesse: Notice the woman’s response is missing on snopes?
@FS: where did you get the source of this post? I suspect the woman’s response was either was written by another person or someone “added” to the conversation when it was floating around the Interwebs.
.-= Investor Junkie´s last blog ..2010 Is Here! Where’s the Monolith? =-.
@ David, Jesse, IJ, Monevator – I remember when this first came out in 2007, before my site was born, and I do believe the first two posts are legit. The woman’s counter response must have come out later by someonelse, b/c It doesn’t match the original’s writing style.
@ Lean – Press what one more time? It’s too early for my brain to think properly.
@ IJ – I like how you flipped it around, but that’s one of the original woman’s beef when she writes:
“Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really plain jane? boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What?s the story there? ”
There are wealthy men who do have very plain Jane wives and she’s upset!
Wow, great post. I think you’re right though, the counter sounds like a different person. Or maybe she’s just trying to use too many big words and financial-speak?
I don’t really empathize with either, but I’d rather be the guy with money!
Of course in would side with the man, but they are both just selling themselves. He is selling his money and she is selling her looks. I guess that’s what craigslist is for though, selling. As a person who just “bumped” into their mate, I can’t see the point in selling one’s self like this.
If he was a good person with money, he would have a partner.
If she was a pretty woman, she would have a partner.
It’s like reading something from Sex in the City or the Desperite Ladies of you pick the city…
.-= Jeff´s last blog ..How-To Enter the MoneyCrashers 2010 New Year Give Away Bash =-.
@ Jeff – Great point! Did you read my Everything is Rational post? Cuz that’s exactly the way I see it too. Then again, there are always lulls in time, and she is just putting herself out there to fill the lull, which is completely rational!
@ Monevator – Nice! You sure YOU didn’t write the counter post?
.-= admin´s last blog ..Everything Is Rational – The Answer To All Things Irrational =-.
That was an entertaining read, and I wonder if it was meant for entertainment purposes only. Anyone who’s ever been in a relationship knows that it doesn’t work as efficiently as an economic model. So to answer your question, I’d rather just be myself, an average woman. On a side note, a woman who proclaims she’s incredibly beautiful and intelligent is either a complete b@!ch OR is not at all what she claims to be.
.-= Little House´s last blog ..Rewards for Debits =-.
This is an oldie but a goodie, read it a long time ago. Funny how both them displayed it and to be honest didn’t understand half of what both of them said. Sounds like the would be perfect for each other.
I think he understood EXACTLY what she said and called her on it. She wants a financial arrangement then that is what she’ll get. His point exactly.
@ Little House – AWESOME! Our first female commentator. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Yes, just be yourself, and thanks for telling it as it is! Whoo hoo.
Well that was pretty darn funny! Even from a female perspective. This ‘lady’ is either way too accomplished for her age both intellectually and financially where she cannot find a good enough match, or she’s a phony with an inflated ego. And I bet it is the latter.
Beautiful and classy (as in stylish) she may be, but not articulate judging by her wordy retort and definitely not a good prospect given the vindictiveness of her response which exposes her as being either batshit crazy, unsatiable, or an outright lier. Why else would anyone put up a singles ad with the main criteria being a $500k salary when she already has a trader boyfriend and then show him that post? He must be equally crazy or a married sugar daddy who’s just ‘leasing’ her. Either way she sounds morally bankrupt and no man would want a morally bankrupt woman to mother his children! So even though I’m female, I definitely do not empathize with her. I also disagree with her assessment that plastic surgery can ‘appreciate’ your assets. You only need to look at the caricatures in the entertainment industry for proof that no amount of $$$ can appreciate your assets.
.-= thriftygal´s last blog ..A Confession =-.
“Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really plain jane? boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What?s the story there? ”
Maybe the wealty guys find the stability, love, commitment and companionship of a plain jane to be an appreciating asset!
.-= thriftygal´s last blog ..A Confession =-.
@ Thirftygal – “Batshit crazy”………. tell us how you really feel? lol
@ Joel – I know right.. .why she gotta talk about a receding hairline? Low blow!
@ Darwin – Is it that easy to find someone making 500K in NYC? I know there are a ton of wealthy folks there, but easy, I donno. You from NYC?
500K in NYC is pretty common. I don’t work in NYC or in Finance, but I grew up in North Jersey and saw the mix of people actually making big money and people trying to act like they did (lifetime of debt). Many of our friends are still there and they make comments like “he makes ONLY 300K” or just getting by on 300K, etc. so I can only presume they make 400K and up. They’re in their 30s. If this woman was willing to marry someone in their 40s or 50s with some simple observations, she could pretty easily identify whales.
With Goldman Sachs (pre-public outrage that turned into stock) bonus pool for 2009 was $750K per avg employee. If you find a dude who’s not an administrative assistant or entry level employee, I would deduce he makes 500K easily.
The pay at other iBanks, Hedge Funds, Lawyers, etc. are likely not too far off.
It’s a whole different world; one that I don’t live in. But I know it exists.
.-= Darwin’s Finance´s last blog ..Weekend Reading – Carnival’s Coming to Town Edition =-.
@ Darwin – Hmmm, interesting. It is a different world then, if “making 500K is easy.” I realize 1st year MBA grads in finance making about 150K or so… so maybe it is easy in a certain niche. But, to her point, most of these guys are probably taken already, which frustrates her, b/c she feels she’s more beautiful than most, and should also deserve a 500K+ man.
Guess these 500K guys don’t visit this site, otherwise, they’d click the hidden 2009 Income Poll I put up earlier in the week on the bottom right hand column. :)
@ Darwin – I see you have a background in ChemE then moved unto an MBA.
There seems to have been a general trend shift towards finance among engineers. They’ve even been rolling out “Engineering MBAs” programs (i.e. Masters of Engineering Management).
May ping you on the side for more.
@ Jesse – It is a HUGE trend for engineers to get their MBA after 4-5 years working post undergrad. Engineers initially start out as the highest wage earners post grad, i.e. $60-80,000/yr, but generally top out at $150,000 or so.
They want to do more, b/c engineers are afterall, some of the smartest folks around, at least in terms of grades and exams. When they see their non-engineering managers make 2-3-4-5X them, they decide to go to b-school.
My b-school class had 60% engineers!
@ admin
1.) My 4-hr lunch break has gone on long enough. I’ll make one last comment and give working a try (at least for a little bit).
2.) Interesting to see where this conversation has led from the original post…
2.) Resonating with your theme of “honorable finance” what do you think about how and where we as a culture place value in careers? Personally, I am confused. Doctors are fairly compensated, but professional athletes are overly-compensated. What about the difference between fund pushers and personal finance advisers? Or petroleum engr vs. clean tech?
Back @ Darwin – I checked out a few of your posts and DEFINITELY will be pinging you later. Very similar themes.
Dude…you hit E-pay dirt with this one.
The woman is an idiot and she’s selling herself. The guy is brilliant and funny. Her response makes no sense. She probably just used some financial dictionary to try to string the words together.
She’s an idiot…but an honest one. I am so glad I didn’t marry a doofus like her.
Okay, I’m not particularly interested in finance, but my fiance is and he asked me to respond…. so, here goes nothing.
The first question was “which do you empathize with more and why?” I can’t say that I empathize with either. For one, I’ve never been a man who makes over 500K a year and cruises craigslist for dates; and, two, I’ve certainly never been a self proclaimed extremely hot, gold digging shallow woman.
However, I have to say that the guy was spot on in saying her looks are likely to depreciate, while his money is more likely to appreciate – even now, everyone expects the economy to bounce back eventually – time is on it’s side; the same can not be said for perky boobs and behinds, once they start falling there’s only so much surgery that can be done to keep them from their inevitable fate. (ugh, changing the subject now because this is making me depressed…)
Personally, I can not stand women, or men, who are ONLY concerned with becoming filthy rich – I’m sure there is a reason the word filthy is in there. I am someone who has come from nothing and am well on my way to making my own very successful life (with lots of help and guidance from my amazing fiance, who IS very interested in all this financial stuff!). So to the woman I say, if she’s not having any luck in NYC, there is always that show out in LA – Millionaire Matchmaker – maybe she should try her luck there. Or she could always revert to the oldest profession in the world….. prostitution – hey, it worked for Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman!
Most likely she posted the initial post as a ruse…
Her boyfiend probably didn’t change, and she just wanted to see what losers (in her opinion) would email her for a date. However, I think she got pissed about the intelligent response from the guy above. Most likely it attacked her beauty and equated it to a depreciating asset, so that put her over the edge. Brilliant observation on his part, by the way…
I have to wonder if her current boyfriend is now thinking “Hmmm, good point”. Probably not, look at “The Donald” Trump and his string of wives. I have learned that being rich (is not equal to) being smart, in a lot of cases.
In the end, I agree with Neal@wealthpilgrim, she’s a doofus.
She’s thinking, “All things being equal, why do these so-so looking women end up with these fabulously wealthy men ?” But all things aren’t equal. They have something you don’t. Women thinking like this objectify men’s wealth and tastes and supports men’s thinking it’s ok to objectify women’s physical appearance. Men living alone, surfing porn in a one room apartment are thinking, “All things being equal, why can’t I seduce a hotty once in while the way I hear about guys like me doing ?” But things are not equal among them. You don’t get what you want. You get what you are.
Thanks for the great entertainment. This was priceless!
John DeFlumeri Jr
.-= JOhn DeFlumeri Jr´s last blog ..Podcast* "When It’s the Wrong Time To Buy!" =-.
I disagree with comments who summarise that she’s a “doofus” and his comment to be “brilliant”. Come on, this is 2010 for crying out loud! They deserve each other.
So she trades her beauty for his money. Another thing I notice is most people only focus on her physical aspect and missing out on her other qualities. Based on her posts, I can see that she’s also smart, articulate, sophisticated and bold about what she wants (although I can’t verify whether the her reply was written by her). Why is it hard for people see a woman past her physical feature?
Let’s forget about finding true love, this is not what she’s after. She wants a good trade deal. The only mistake I see on her part is the fact that she posted the ad on Craigslist. I’m not very familiar with the demography of their readers but I think she would have a better chance if she goes to an exclusive matchmaking agent specialised on wealthy clients. It’s a different world from mine and I don’t know how they manage the “transaction”. My take is, if she wants it (and it’s legal), she better do it right. Who am I to judge?
.-= Bytta @151 Days Off´s last blog ..Day 4: A Juggler and A Possibly Unemployed Person Who’s Been Bribed =-.
@ Jesse – Wow, I need to find myself a job that allows me a 4 hour lunch break. SWEET! Or, are you saying you were so enraptured by this post and dialogue that we kinda took you away from work? :) WRT to your question on honorable professions, let’s talk about it in a separate post. It’s a good topic. In the meantime, read the “Everything is Rational” post for hints on my thoughts.
@ Neal – At least she’s open an honest! That says a lot about this woman. I like that she knows what she wants, and she wants it NOW.
@ Don – I really don’t think the initial post was a joke. It was quite real. Donald is the man and ladies love him! Can’t fault or hate for that!
@ Lori – Love the comment, I’m not sure if you were channeling ur fiance, or if it was you, but well said!
@ ChadK – So rude of women to objectify us men for our wealth and stuff! lol
@ John – You’re welcome. I couldn’t stop laughing and had to re-read several times. The counter response was kinda boring though.
@ Bytta – Exactly, who are we to judge? If someone wants to have some fun with her, and she wants to be wined and dined by someone making over 500K, sounds good to me!
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ha that’s crazy. The guy has some funny comments. The woman just sounds plain crazy – I’m surprised she actually had a bf at the time. “So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset.” aaahaha
I remember hearing this a while back but this was just as funny reading this again for the second time. Classic.
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Interestingly, Sam, I read a while ago that there’s a school/agent/club in New York where they “prep” young women like her who want to marry upper class gentleman. They teach etiquette, manner, culture, etc, etc. I bet they would tell their students to go discreet about their business and not post a silly ad on Craigslist.
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Hmmm, well perhaps it wasn’t a ruse. But if it wasn’t a ruse, then the girl must not be very smart. Her post makes about as much sense as it would be to like look for caviar at walmart.. I agree with “Bytta @151 Days Off” with that point.
I think that there is more to life that just external beauty. I’ve dated knockouts in my past that after the first date I couldn’t stand. If I were rich like the men described, I would want a wife that is smart and dependable, and overall a good match to my personality. Not a wife that would be superficial and dump me for the next richer man. There is more than just looks in a relationship, and if that is what a marrage is based on, then I feel bad for both. Perhaps this is why the divorce rate is so high in America?
It might be a fun test drive (like a BMW ;)) but in the end go with the practical car that can rely be on (Toyota).
Either way, it’s and interesting read. Thanks for bring it to light…
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@ Bytta – Believe it or not, some believe that “school” is called Business School! lol At least, that’s what several of my female classmates have told me about their own intentions to find a man. Smart of them.. go to Harvard B-School, work a couple years, marry a HBS grad, and be done with the rat race!
” Interestingly, Sam, I read a while ago that there’s a school/agent/club in New York where they “prep” young women like her who want to marry upper class gentleman. They teach etiquette, manner, culture, etc, etc. I bet they would tell their students to go discreet about their business and not post a silly ad on Craigslist. “
At worst, the woman is a whore and is seeking sugar daddies with too much money and not enough brains to understand deceptive women and/or their intentions. Think of why any money-rich time-poor bloke be surfing craigslist for?
At best, the woman is genuine, but definitely not marriage material. Her intentions are clearly spelt out – find a rich man to marry and after a brief time divorce him and continue to enjoy her share of his estate. “I require additional compensation in the form of a underwater nested call option on your future assets.”
The woman is also a liar! The advert says she is looking for a boyfriend to eventually marry, and her following reply mentions her current boyfriend party to this craigslist advert. Ha… her filthy rich boyfriend writing adverts for his “spectacularly beautiful, articulate, classy, culutured, sophisticated” girlfriend on craigslist??? He couldn’t be an intelligent enough trader, or else he himself is looking to trade his current girlfriend with another less intelligent but richer man. I vaguely remember watching a movie with a similar storyline…
You email called their bluff out! Hence, their reprisal… Well done, but keep away from such women. I would never marry a woman with assests less than mine. Only then can an equal partnership be assured!
Treating a relationship as a business transaction — I love it! Especially the “depreciating assets” line!
I’ve been a CEO for a few years of a small company that is actually backed by the NYC investment bankers and I don’t make more than 250K per year base salary.. but then again I don’t live in NYC either.
For the frustrated guys in the US who are tired of the BS of women like this come to Thailand for a holiday. You will feel like Brad Pitt and have lots of people vying for your attention. It helps to look clean cut and be polite. You soon start to realize what a ridiculous game this is and superficial women just aren’t worth it… too many fish in the sea.
Of course I’m in my mid-30’s now and have some perspective that comes with age.
-Mike
This is hilarious – enjoyed the read and the comments, each and everyone of them! I actually knew a woman who for want of a better term, collected husbands. She was the mother of one of my daughter’s friends and strung a handful of prominent last names after her own first name. At first I thought that the first last name was her own family name and then the appendage of a married one who gasp may have died and she added a third by one of those hyphenated slate of marriage/divorce type things. You know, something like Liz Taylor Hilton Todd-Fisher (I think I skipped a husband and I know there were more later except Liz didn’t do that and moreover, she had more than scant bit of moolah herself – methinks) But lo and behold, my daughter enlightened me one day. It seems that her friend confided in her one day and told my daughter that she was so embarrassed that her mother insisted on adding on the name of her latest husband to the string of previous ones (I think there were 4 total). I don’t think this washed legally, but she certainly was beautiful and for whatever reason each successive husband did not seem to object. Aaahhh…. life is so funny. Come to think of it didn’t Ivana just dump her fourth?
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Valentina – Your woman you talked about must have been quite a foxy saleswoman to collect 4 husbands! Don’t get the 4 last names strung together, but sounds good. I hope she made bank from the exes! :)
Wow, that’s…I don’t think I have the right words to express what exactly that is. In answer to your questions, I don’t think I emphasize with either of them. The woman, in her first post, definitely comes off as gold digger with few redeeming qualities; ignoring for a moment that ‘classy’ girls don’t go on craigslist to all but beg for rich guys to date them, her high opinion of herself and the fact that she believes she ‘deserves’ a rich husband (more than the ‘plain’ women who actually have some of these wealthy husbands) are big turn offs. (As a side note, presumably the ‘plain’ women are offering something to their rich husbands that the original poster and the beautiful, single girls hanging out in the East Village bars can’t match; intelligence, support, their own money, or heck, perhaps simply an attitude other than ‘we’re pretty, we deserve to have our every whim met’ might be enough to seal the deal.)
The guy’s response is wittier, and I could believe that he was writing more to pop the woman’s over-inflated ego than as a legitimate offer. That said, he still comes off as an unbearable prick; the idea that by 35, she would no longer be beautiful enough to still be marriageable (‘stick a fork in her’) is just distasteful. Add in the talk about ‘leasing’ her (which sounds like trader talk for dating with the expectation that when she is no longer attractive enough for him, he’ll dump her, presumably leaving her with nothing), which he offers to discuss further at the end of his post, and it’s definitely creepy.
The ‘woman’s response’ (and no, I don’t believe it is the same woman; although, perhaps with her boyfriend’s help…) is just depressing. Besides being so laden with economic jargon as to be nearly unreadable for anyone without an MBA (although, presumably that was the point), it manages to turn her from a shallow, vapid gold digger who believes women have nothing to offer beyond looks into something even worse. The references to plastic surgery, the idea that making her own money is too much effort (‘effort/reward ratio is too high’), and of course, as mentioned already by several people, the current boyfriend who not only apparently okay with her seeking a (presumably) wealthier man to marry, but actively helping her in her quest; all paint a disturbing picture of this woman’s life and the workings of her mind. If I wasn’t already thoroughly turned off by her gold digging manner in her first post, her response would definitely make me avoid this girl like the plague (not that she’d ‘lower’ herself to consider someone making $50,000 a year at most, anyway).
Nobody in this exchange, not the gold-digging woman, nor the self-important jerk, nor the unseen ‘trader’ boyfriend, comes off as the sort of person I’d want as a friend, yet alone a serious romantic partner. Give me a nice, easy-going, ‘plain’ girl any day of the week.
As for which I’d rather be, a beautiful girl or a rich man, I think I’d opt for being a rich man, seeing as I’m already a man and have no particular qualms with being such. Plus, if I was a rich man, I could afford to become a beautiful woman if that’s what I really wanted! ;)
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Roger, your comments are gold.
I think his point is not that by 35 she’ll be ugly but that, since all she is bringing to the table to marry and share the wealth of this rich man is her youth and beauty is that by 35 she will no longer be young and on her way out of being beautiful. Basically: if all you are offering in exchange for my wealth is not love or personality or wealth but looks and youth, in ten years you will have neither and I will have wealth. Why would I want to be married to a woman approaching middle age, no longer beautiful, who doesn’t love me and just wants my money.
Love and money is a motivating force for a lifetime commitment between husband and wife. Where there is love, there goes the money. Where does the line get drawn between love and money? Or is there one? If a rich person is getting pursued by a person who isn’t rich – that’s one thing, but if couples are serious about each other, there has to be financial communication. If one person has their act together, and is paying off debt, and the other is constantly running for payday loans, this will create problems. As a couple, you have to hash these things out – work out financial goals, meet or exceed them, and have everything planned to the tee. That way, you can have the security of love and money that makes for a great relationship.
Ha there’s always gold hidden in craigslist
I empathize with the man! Maybe I am too old fashioned, but I find it a little offensive for the woman to advertise on Craigslist for a mate. She had a checklist of sorts of what she wanted which was money and only money! The man who responded basically put her in her place. She deserved it. It would be different if she were asking for advice instead of trading on her beauty. Who really knows if she is beautiful anyway. I had the feeling she put together a shopping list to check off and nothing more. Marriage is more than a checklist!
Wow, I had actually read the first two before on CL, but never the last one. And boy, what a turn this has taken! The best of Craigslist is truly an underutilized entertainment source. I was very impressed with the woman’s response (I wonder how much research she did to create that response or how much she knew of that already). So, given just how impressive her response was, I’m empathizing with the woman.
The only problem I have with the response is this line:
>>”By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.”<<
That line would only work for a man who is ALSO young, fit and attractive. Otherwise, an overweight middle aged bald man is expecting to bring less to the table than he's getting in exchange. Think about it: If he expects to date a woman who matches his financial worth, he better NOT expect her to be young and hot. Why would a woman bring more to the table than she's getting? If she's self-sufficient financially, I guarantee she doesn't want an old fat guy. So, rich men, unless you want to find yourself with a woman comporable to your own physical attributes, you better get used to your money being considered an asset in the dating market. Don't expect to land yourself a young, beautiful rich partner when you yourself only possess 1/3 of those assets.
The line you refer to isn’t even apropos to the conversation. His point is if you makes her own money, she doesn’t have to try to find men to give it to her and he wouldn’t have to point out the harsh realities (that you regurgitated): if she wants to “trade” her looks for money then, given the reality that her looks will fade and the money will grow, it is not a good trade for life but only until her looks fade. Because, as you point out, she’ll then be bringing nothing to the table; not looks, not money, and certainly not love. Whereas he’ll still be bringing money.
Men start out “poor” and struggle to date, women start out “pretty” and find it easy to date. Some women try to use their early prettiness to take the short-cut and marry money. Some men try to trade money for love after they’ve made their money. When they’ve made their money, rarely do they find women who’ve also made that money and, as usual with women, if they have don’t really need or want the men. If they don’t, the men are faced with two choices; women in their age bracket who make no money, who wouldn’t have dated them 10-15 years ago when *they* made no money but who will date them now; women their age who made money who don’t need or want men or want men with more money; young pretty girls who want men with money.
The real moral is “don’t expect to land a rich hot partner when you yourself only bring 1/2 the assets and in ten years will bring none”. Thus the guys response…
1. What “hot” girl talks like that: “allow me to hasten to reassure you that the source …” It’s not the 1800’s here.
2. Basically, the “hot” girl admitted she was lazy: “If the standards required to meet with financial success on Wall St. have sunk so low … the effort/reward ratio is far too high for my liking.” So once her beauty is complete gone, what good is she for? I doubt she’ll cook and clean.
3. She makes fun of his supposed receding hairline while bringing up plastic surgery? I guess the fix for fading looks only apply to girls.
4. Frankly, all the mumbo jumbo about nested call option, Chapter 11, etc. sounds like it was written by a Finance geek, who has never been with a girl, acting as some sort of white knight.
The trade off from the guy’s perspective is easy to understand. He is among the top 1% in terms of earning power and will likely stay there as long as he works. It is doubtful that the girl is in the top 1% in terms of looks and can stay there (especially given the way she wrote back). If the girl brought something to the table besides looks, that might offset her depreciating value.
The counter response was just confusing.
Good comment. I bet the guy doesn’t really believe what he posted – he just was responding appropriately to a thinly veiled gold digger post. The follow-up response – very unlikely the original poster made it (at least by herself). I know people with their MBAs (working outside of wall-street) who don’t even understand that level of financial jargon, much less a “super attractive 25 year old female” trying to find a guy making over 500k+. If she was really that hot and smart, she’d be making 500k+ herself working in finance in the city.
They sound absolutely perfect for each other. They should get married and have a bunch of spoiled ungrateful children and then when the man gets laid off, he’ll develop a drinking problem and she’ll hire a biker to kill him for his life insurance money.
Simple solution …..lease. When it grows old, get a new model. Even a Ferrari gets old when the newest Lambo comes out. After 2 years you need a different perspective so turn the old one back in and get excited over a new one all over again.
HA HA HA! Oh that was such a clever rebuff from the woman OF COUSE! “inflation-indexed junk bond with an underwater nested call option” LOL
Ah, she wins. She wins on several counts, first she came out first, second, she ended it.
It reminds me of a day long ago, as I was subjected to a couple fighting in front of me. He told her what a stupid, idiot she was. She paused, looked him up & down (and I knew it was coming) SO DID HE.
She said, “that’s right I’m a stupid, idiot & you are a very clever man… and that is why you married me and I’m married to you”.
She looked like a beaten dog. I couldn’t help but laugh out loud. He looked so beaten, I told him, you got to admit she’s good.
He knodded yes.
LOL (still laughing). Woman, ya gotta love em.
should say.. HE looked like a beaten dog. LOL (sorry, I was still laughing).