Although I’m bullish about investing in rental properties long term, being a landlord can sometimes be a terrible experience. If you are unfortunate enough to land bad tenants, they may not only pay rent late, but they may also trash your place. Being a landlord tests my faith in humanity sometimes.
I’ll never forget what James Carville, Bill Clinton’s lead strategist said to us at our high school commencement, “Always leave a place better than you found it.” His words have made me a more thoughtful person – always trying to pay for the bill, cleaning up after others long after a high school tennis match is over at a public park, and giving consulting clients more time without charging more.
The problem with being a thoughtful person is that unthoughtful people can drive you NUTS. If you want to save yourself from a lot of agitation, I suggest being a selfish person who only thinks about yourself.
You won’t go very far in life because nobody will want to help you or do business with you. But at least you’ll be impervious to the negative affects of the selfishness of others!
Let me share a previous terrible landlord experience with you and why I ultimately sold the rental property. As a new father, I didn’t want to spend extra time dealing with bad tenants.
Being A Landlord Has Been A Struggle
From 2015-2017 had five tenants in my Marina single-family rental house. They seemed like nice enough guys with nice enough jobs to pay the nice enough rent. There was just one problem. They didn’t give a FLYING F*CK about my property or the terms of the lease!
I’m writing this post to warn all of you folks who are considering being landlords that bad things can happen that will test your sanity. Anybody who believes that achieving financial independence early doesn’t take a lot of sacrifice is fooling themselves!
The other reason why I’m writing this post is to encourage myself to STOP trying to buy more physical property. I put in an all-cash bid this week for $100,000 over asking for a house with ocean views. Unfortunately, I lost because there were 10 other offers and the house was purposefully underpriced.
San Francisco prices are undervalued compared to other international cities. Perhaps this post will help fight my property accumulation addiction!
My Pain In The Ass Tenants
If you haven’t figured it out by now, renting your house to five guys usually equals DISASTER, especially if all the guys were in a fraternity. I knew this when we agreed to the rental lease.
However, I also secretly hoped I wouldn’t find blowup dolls, pong tables, and kegs in the house (found them all in the first year!). Hope is a funny thing that makes people go against their best judgment.
Of course my good neighbors texted me to tell me whenever they threw parties way past curfew. Of course I also got notifications when they’d run across my neighbors’ roofs, drunk. If there was a San Francisco Tenant Blacklist, half of them would be on the list for sure.
Here are some reasons why being a landlord has been so painful. I truly have a love-hate relationship with owning rental properties.
The First Thoughtless Situation By My Tenants
Out of the 24 months they rented my house, their rent was late EIGHT times. Per the lease, any rent paid after the 4th day is considered late and subject to a $250 fine (1/36 the monthly rent).
The first late payment, I wasn’t sweating it. I wasn’t worried about the second late payment either. But when the third late payment rolled around, I had a heart-to-heart conversation with the master tenant.
I needed him to start being more responsible and considerate since I had my own expenses associated with the house I had to pay every month. He agreed, apologized, and promised not to be late again.
Five months passed and they were late again. I asked him what was up, and he told me that his bank had some type of error. Uh huh. I knew he was lying, but I let it slide because the rent showed up a day later. Once again, I was too nice to enforce the $250/day penalty.
Constantly Late With Rent
Then on July 4th weekend last year their rent payment was late again. This time, none of the tenants could get back to me about where the money was because they were all traveling.
They finally paid the rent on the 10th, six days past the deadline. I was trying to find someway to get it through to the master tenant’s head that he was being completely irresponsible. So I used this analogy:
Imagine if your employer didn’t pay you on time every two weeks. Imagine if they decided to pay you whenever they felt like it? How would you feel? Because that is how I feel every time you’re late.
Once again, he nodded his head, apologized, and agreed to be more diligent. I forgave him again because I never felt he and the crew would not pay. I just felt they were completely thoughtless.
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After the 8th late payment, I had a BRILLIANT idea.
I told the master tenant, “Hey man, I know you’re having a tough time paying rent on time because you have to collect rent from four other guys, make sure everything clears, and then pay me at the bank. It sucks you can’t just automatically wire transfer the $9,000 each month. So here’s a solution! How about you cut me a written check and send it in the mail by the first of each month. I’ll wait until the 5th of each month before depositing it so that you’ve got enough money. This way, I’ll feel better knowing that at least I have a check in hand to deposit.“
He told me this was a fine idea, but never followed through. He proceeded to just go to my bank and deposit a check or cash into my account. At least I was getting paid. Then just recently, they finally gave me their 31 day move-out notice, HOORAY!
One tenant needed to save money so he moved back home with his parents. Another tenant’s father bought him a one bedroom condo and will rent out his living room to one of the housemates. I’m not sure about the other two.
The Second Thoughtless Situation By My Tenants
Part of the lease states to maintain the yard and return it in the condition it was originally in. Maintaining the yard meant not letting the yard get overgrown with weeds, regularly watering the fruit trees, and not using it like a dumpster.
I spent about $2,500 making the yard look nice a couple years before they moved in. They agreed to hire a gardener to maintain the yard twice a month.
Of course, they did no such thing. Here’s a picture of the yard during their time there.
Spending Money To Make The Yard Better

They promised to get a gardener to make the yard look good again. But of course, the gardener never showed up four days before they planned to move out. Given they were consistently unreliable, I told them I’d do some leg work to make the yard look good again with my guy Luis. He ended up landscaping the back and front yard at my other single family home.
The tenants said OK. But then balked when I came back with the labor only price of $1,000. Then I told them if they were not willing to pay they should go ahead and do the work themselves, and they finally acquiesced to $800.


After spending $1,400 (including materials) and two days completely overhauling the yard, a funny thing happened. As I was proudly showing the backyard to a leasing agent, I almost stepped in a pile of dog sh*t!

One of the tenants once again didn’t give a sh*t and decided after all that time and money spent, they’d bring a dog into the backyard, let him drop a deuce, and just leave it there.
Don’t you just LOVE it when dog owners let their dogs sh*t all over the sidewalk and never clean up after them? It’s infuriating. If you see a dog owner do such a thing, tell them to pick it up with their hands and dump it in their own house.
One tenant fessed up, “Sorry Sam, my girlfriend brought her dog to the house via the garage the other night for probably 5-10 minutes. I had no idea that happened, but my apologies. If not already cleaned up I will do it personally.“
Unbelievable. Being a landlord sucks. I definitely have a love-hate relationship with owning rental property. On the one hand, rental properties generate enough passive income so I don’t have to work. On the other hand, tenants give me stress.
The Third Thoughtless Situation By My Tenants
Two weeks before their move out date, I told the tenants to start getting rid of trash ASAP because the trash man would not pick up tons of extra trash that wouldn’t fit in the bins on their move out date. He might pick up one or two extra bags if he was in a good mood, but not a massive pile of trash.
My tenants ignored me.
Upon the final walk through, they were already running 1.5 hours late trying to get things out of the house. When I saw the mounds of trash on the side walk, I told them there was less than a 10% chance all of their trash would be picked up the next day. I told them to take some trash with them. They refused.
I told them to come back later that evening to get rid of at least some of the extra trash. Leaving so much trash out is a target for human scavengers and raccoons.
They only consolidated a couple bags. Why? Because I made the cardinal mistake of giving back their deposit. A new set of prospective tenants were already waiting 20 minutes to see the place.
Tenants Left So Much Trash Left Outside


So guess what happened the very next morning when I came by to meet my floor refinishing guy and some prospective realtors?
Nothing! All the trash was still there and exploded on the sidewalk. Then I got another text message from my neighbor with this picture:

I couldn’t believe it. I texted the tenants to get their asses over there to pick up the trash. And in the meantime, because I was so embarrassed with people coming over, I picked up the trash around the trash can.
Of course they didn’t come over. They apologized, and called 1-800-JUNK to pick everything up 2.5 hours after I shot them the picture.
As A Landlord, All I Could Do Was Laugh
The way I get through stressful landlord moments is by reminding myself that everything is fixable with time and money. Then I remind myself I have a nice big deposit. If I didn’t cut them their deposit before the trash explosion, I would have felt less stressed.
All I could do was laugh at the situation. I texted the trash picture to the realtors before they came and jokingly asked, “will this show well?”
I will do my best never to rent to a bunch of irresponsible guys anymore. Further, I absolutely will not buy another physical property for rental income. Every time I have an itch to buy physical real estate, I will refer back to this post to keep myself in check.
The reality is, being a successful landlord is all about finding the right tenants. I landed a family of three with no pets for my other rental property in 2022. So far, they’ve been pretty good. I even realized every landlord issue is a teachable moment for my kids!
Simplified Life Is Worth Living
I’m all about simplicity now. Two rental properties plus a vacation property is the maximum I can handle. All new money that I originally planned to use for physical real estate will now go towards buying municipal bonds, REITs and real estate crowdfunded projects outside of San Francisco. A 4% – 12% potential annual gain with no tenants to deal with is good enough for me!
I’m too old for being a hands on landlord anymore. Before I retired in 2012, I thought real estate would pay for my living expenses happily ever after. Thank goodness for online income as well.
Making money online can be much more lucrative and much more passive.
Lessons For Landlords To Avoid Bad Tenants
If you want to increase your chances of having a good landlord experience, do the following things.
1) Wait at least a week after your tenants have moved out before giving back their rental deposit. There will often be some items you will have missed during the walkthrough.
2) Be kind, but firm. Enforce the lease after the first warning. Collect the penalty fee and incentivize a return of the penalty fee if conditions are followed for the remainder of the lease.
3) No matter how much money you make or have, continue to treat your property as a business. Hire a property manager if you’re too empathetic towards others.
4) Spend more time screening your tenants than you think you need. Don’t fall in love with the first tenant you meet. It’s easier to do so because you’re very motivated to lock someone in and start earning rental income.
You need to interview at least 3-5 tenants in order to get a good idea of the applicant pool. If you start feeling a weird feeling or unsure, keep on looking. Once you lock in bad tenants, it can be a real nightmare.
In 2017, I ended up selling the rental property because it was too much of a PITA, especially when my son was born that year. Although I miss the property, I don’t miss dealing with tenants and maintenance issues.
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After I sold my rental property for $2,742,000, I reinvested $550,000 of the proceeds into real estate crowdfunding to earn income 100% passively and simplify. I also invested $500,000 in bonds and $500,000 in stocks to diversify. I have to say, as a dad to two young children, earning income passively is the way to go.
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I am just a small time landlord. This is not (yet) an affiliate link. But bill.com can save you from a world of hurt in rent collection.
Through Bill.com, the tenant signs an agreement allowing the landlord to pull the rent from their account, rather than them sending the rent to you. You set up a recurring draw, and many of the problems in this post are completely avoided. You also have the right to do a draw of the late fee if the regular draw has insufficient funds.
Tenants receive reminder emails, but the rent just draws. On time. While you all sleep. On the 1st of the month usually, but I have no problem accommodating someone who asks nicely for the 5th, because I know it will reliably come in on that date. Suddenly, it is just as important to the tenant to have money in their account for the rent draw as it is to have money for their car loan, cable, Netflix etc.
Caveat: You can only use bill.com to draw rent if you hold the property in an LLC or a corporation. You cannot use it to draw if you are just a private individual who owns property directly.
Sounds to me like adults are living in a home the way they want. If you want people to live by your rules under your roof, have a kid. They are already paying exorbitant rent because of the location — SF is not cheap. Only allowing someone access to a necessity like housing if they follow your rules seems pretty monarchical to me.
Leaving trash on the street is not a big deal — let the city get mad at them.
Dog poop *in your own yard* is not a big deal. Buy the dog a colostomy bag if you’re that upset.
Poor college students being a week or even one month late on rent is not a big deal. If you can’t afford the mortgage on the home without tenants, then you can’t afford the home. BaSic EcONoMiCs
I also saw a lot of “an empty unit is better than a unit with bad tenants.” I would rather have someone throwing darts at the drywall in my house than be homeless if that was their only other option. An empty unit is a way to show off your selfishness — ESPECIALLY in a city like SF. Let people live, literally. They need shelter and you pussyfooting around and carefully avoiding the phrase “I hate poor people who don’t respect that I have more money than them” even though it is clear from your post is not providing that for them.
And just to be clear, I have rented for the past 8 years, have never had a complaint from a landlord, and have always received 100% of my security deposit back with the exception of a new construction apartment where I forgot to take move-in day pictures and was charged for the drywall not being painted as a result. I have never trashed a place, and at most places I have rented I have increased the property value because every landlord I have encountered — big city and small town — is a slumlord at heart.
Once again I will reiterate that holding housing hostage until someone agrees to follow your rules is draconian and disgusting.
Housing is a right and should be based on a renter’s rules, even though the landlord owns the property. It’s not fair that renters have to agree to a landlord’s rule to rent the landlords property. I deserve to own property as well and be able to throw house parties and treat the property the way I wish. Even if I agree to the lease terms, I believe I should bend the rules in my favor for my lifestyle.
In general, it is good to follow and respect the lease agreement. If you don’t like the lease agreement, then don’t sign the lease.
Good for you for increasing a landlord’s property. My experience was different. I would much rather buy property, earn rental income and potentially experience capital appreciation than rent. The return on rent is always negative 100%.
Owning rental properties is one of the best ways to generate passive income for financial freedom. However, sometimes, you run into difficult tenants. And that’s just the way things are.
I don’t think the OP is saying that owning property isn’t an excellent financial decision almost all of the time. It sound stop me like they were trying to tell you how much it sounds like you’re trying really hard not to directly say “I hate people who have less money than me” in your article.
You might’ve had tenants who were untimely with their rent payments and had lower lawn maintenance standards than yourself, but the way you talk about them makes it sound like you think of them as ruffians and ingrates who are taking advantage of YOUR property. The fact of the matter is, however, that unless you are charging rental fees that exclusively account for your cost of ownership so that you can cash in on your investment when you sell the house, you are the one taking advantage of your tenants labor. There is no justifiable reason to make “passive” income month to month by simply owning property.
I think it’s fine if you tenants were late paying 8 times or even more. You should give people a break, even if you have a mortgage and expenses to pay. So what if they trash your house, don’t keep up with maintenance, and disturb the neighbors. It’s not their property, it’s yours. It’s not fair that you saved money and took risks to buy the property while we renters don’t get to build equity. I deserve to be rich too.
Ultimately, landlords don’t really care who lives in their place as long as they abide by the lease which are usually sane people with decent hygiene that don’t act like rabid animals. You should see how some people choose to live. You want to live like a rat with garbage all over the floors? Fine. But when move out day comes and your security deposit gets kept because you lived like a pig and cleaning fees had to come out, don’t be surprised.
Owning property is not a “right” otherwise it would be readily available with nothing more than some paperwork just like voting. You need to work and save some money and then take a chance on buying property to rent out. Yes you can live your life but if you choose to do stupid things or act like a pig in someone elses property, don’t be surprised when you get hit with a fine. It’s not YOUR property. You are paying to live there temporarily.
Sam,
I feel for you. I do. As a renter I think it’s wrong – downright wrong what happend to you. After reading all this I’d side with you in any case against those other renters. But there are plenty – plenty of cases in the reverse. As a renter I’ve dealt with damage to my own belongings, illegal entries, changing of locks because “my guy must have gotten the wrong idea from me”, broken water heaters not fixed to the point of having to bring in housing authority, retaliatory increases and charges in rent, and so on.
Recently I moved into an apartment with a friend and her boyfriend. All of us had great credit. All of us work. Since this was happening after a divorce, I wanted to secure a good place once i found it. Me and my roommates decided to pay 2+ mos rent at a time to keep up with good faith between landlord and us tenants. DWP messed up what I had proof of was a change in address for services – i still paid the bill they messed up just to keep things smooth between us and the landlord (billed was incorrectly billed to landlord – a bill I had already paid to DWP, but that’s another story). We keep to ourselves as I am a fulltime student, and all three of us work full time. Contacting the landlord for basic repairs is like pulling teeth. Backed up toilets and tub, and now a gate that has my car trapped inside the property’s garage – this is the state of affairs now. I stressed keeping clear, open lines of communication between renters and landlord – never done. “Call this guy”, “oh no, I meant this guy”, “call me, I’ll send the maintenance guy”, maintenance guy not knowing what landlord is talking about – again, current state of affairs. Now landlord, who poses as a manager, states he’s annoyed with us. What did I miss? What did we three miss? Blows my mind. Be an *ssh*le renter, you’re an *ssh*le; be a good renter, still an *ssh*le.
If the common response is, ‘Well if you dont like it, leave’, then fine, sure. Does this fix the problem? No. Whether you’re a renter or landlord, does this type of response help lessen such occurrences? No, not at all.
I try to sympathetic to landlords as all property owners are taxed to death, but that’s not an excuse to sh*t on renters. This could be symptomatic of Los Angeles, but this seems to be more far reaching than that.
I honestly think that returning to the idea of promoting clear open communication is key, but how? Renters are already scared of landlords, and, sorry to say, but landlords wouldn’t cross the street to piss out a fire if it were a renter.
You’re thoughts?
I have been dogged out and cheated by every landlord I’ve rented from here in Missouri. They don’t care about people and they don’t care about the properties that they rent to people. I am on a mission to stop the evil.
I really hope all these landlords get cancer along with corona.
You should be on a mission to buy a house.
I would be interested in what defines “dogged out and cheated.”
Cost of doing business. Expect the expected.
I used to be jealous and angry of the monopoly man and “owners” “landlords.” But, now, I see, they’re chained to the time and budget calendar like everyone else and few are “rich.” Some are slumlords and abusive but most have owners pride and try to fix stuff when it breaks and keep things up and modern. You get what you pay for for rent. One mistake is that you’re a pleasure power player like they are with the party house mentality. Pleasure people attract pleasure people. One trick my step-dad used when his young (druggy) hand to mouth tenants started falling behind is that he would show up and collect the rent by the week. I hope that helps. I wish there was a better way to collect sub-leases from everyone easier than the barking house leader..something of an app or website like the have now I think. You’re better off with and old lady and a more humble house but that’s illegal. I like my old style landlord just calling place of work to make sure income and job was there…no credit check…three payments and job call enough.
All a good reminder of why I decided some time ago to never rent to tenants again! Not that I needed a reminder, after doing it once I learned it’s not my cup of tea – I’m too nice, don’t appreciate the kind of people who always test boundaries & their luck, tenants are too often crappy, and I’m not keen on having to hire a property manager just to deal with lousy tenants. So instead I’ll be B&B’ing my in-law unit (well sort of an in-law unit, no kitchen) this next spring after doing some renovations. That way I can rent it when I want, have guests when I want, and have it empty for some peace & quiet when I want. =)
Hey Sam,
I’m afraid I’ve had exactly the same experience as you (minus the dog sh*t!)
After thinking I was heading to a comfortable stress-free retirement income through rental property I’ve recently decided I can’t be bothered and am completely changing course to invest for dividends in equities.
It’s a real shame that nice tenants aren’t the norm, but the exception. Plus, my rental incomes actually fell over time, which sucks when you’re cleaning up after everyone else.
FS San, Do you think AirBnB is a good way to get around bad tenants since they never become a tenant? The ABB contract makes them just a guest. I’ve heard ppl treat the place nicer when they are ABB renters.
Respectfully, J
Gee, am I the only one looking at the trash pile your tenants left, and seeing dollar signs? I could have used that rug and music stand…
Sam, after the first time, you should have charged them a late fee. That would have reinforced that they needed to get serious about the business of paying. I did find your article interesting, though.
And yes, you need to sell this place! Take the profits and run.
Great post. After moving out my pain in the @ss tenants of 5 years and selling the property (for a nice profit at least) I empathize with ALL of this. I took the nice guy routine for the first few months and got the same runaround you did on late payments, etc. I was lucky in that I got great advice from a former property manager when I told him my troubles: “You’ve got to be a pr*ck.” After that, I was polite with the tenants, but made it clear I wasn’t putting up with any game playing. “You’re short this month because your dog got sick? That’s sad. Pay me or else.” I always followed through on charging the $100 late fee after the 5 day grace period. You have to train tenants to make sure that that rent payment is the number one priority in their lives. If you give them an inch of breathing room it will fall on their list of priorities. If they don’t believe that you’ll follow through on late fees or eviction, they’ll exploit it.
And, yes, DO NOT GIVE THE SECURITY DEPOSIT BACK UNTIL THEY ARE GONE AND YOU HAVE THOROUGHLY ASSESSED THE PROPERTY. Different states have different rules in terms of timing. In Michigan its 30 days and I took all of that time while I turned the house over in the ensuing weeks. I charged them my time for removing all the junk they left behind and the dog s#it in the yard.
I learned a lot as a property manager. It’s definitely eye opening and requires a certain mentality.
Thanks for sharing Ed. I’ve found that I can’t manage more than two rental properties. I don’t have the patience for it. If this house was smaller, and could only accommodate 1 or 2 tenants, I’d feel better. But dealing with 5 or more guys is not my cup of tea.
From what I’m reading here….tenant laws are for a reason…even though poor people suck…is that you’re all bitching and whiing about problems but most of you are walking away with experience, profit, a building, land, or flip, or good credit or something….you’re all getting rich off the “bonds and work” of slaves. Enjoy the problems…do something for the money. I know. I want no problems as well. I’m sick of selfish people. Go pay 1.00 to fill your tires.
In my market, most landlords are in charge of landscaping etc and the ones who don’t are generally the slum-lord types. I’m a tenant, and I am not going to hurt anything, but I think green lawns are stupid. They are bad for the earth and take so much time that could be spent more productively. I will do the bare minimum to keep the city happy, because it is not my priority and won’t be. If the landlord cared about it, he would charge higher rent to cover it. I know he doesn’t care, because he has let his house decay (long before I moved in) and is just collecting rent. Why should I care more than he does about his asset? I’ll do no harm, but that’s all.
Rule #1 of Landlording: An empty property is better than a bad tenant.
Rule #2 of Landlording: If you are tempted to take a tenant you are not sure about because the place has been empty… see rule #1!
It’s all about screening potential tenants properly. Credit checks, prior landlord references (and not just their current landlord, who may lie to get rid of them), employment checks, criminal checks. You have to do the legwork.
My spouse has a system and has gotten good at developing a good instinct about people. We also keep rents slightly under market to have a better pool of tenants to choose from.
One eviction in 20 years, our system works for us. My tenants are increasing my equity by around $10-12K per month, with another $6K+ in positive cash flow per month. Our cap rates are all in the 8-9% range. Rental real estate can be a great investment. :)
I love your rules? I am absolutely loving having an empty house. I think I plan to rent my house to my business so I can have an office. Keep it in the family and keep things simple.