Motivation is the key to progress. And progress is my one word definition of happiness. This post will discuss how to motivate yourself when the desire to be rich is gone. Eventually, we’ll all be rich enough or feel rich enough to stop hustling.
I spend a lot of time responding to comments, so I figure I might as well make some of them into full-fledged posts. I get tired of listening to my own story as I’m sure you do too, so this is a great way to break things up!
How To Motivate Yourself When The Desire To Be Rich Is Gone
Reader Gus writes in asking how to motivate yourself:
Hi Sam,
I love reading your blog and we have a reasonably similar work background so I thought you may be a good person to ask my question to.
My parents were immigrants and I grew up in a lower class area but went to a decent school. I never really had the ‘things’ or houses my friends did, which in hindsight isn’t particularly important but it did make me want to be rich. Not just comfortable, but rich.
So I did what any kid from a poor immigrant background would do. I studied hard, got good grades, went for and got into a good university, got good grades and then went into Investment Banking. I did three years in M&A before burning out and switched to buy side equities research which I’ve been doing for six years now. I’m married and recently had my first child and everything at home is good.
I’ve been pretty good at saving and investing the whole time I’ve been working. I have a small home paid off worth ~$650k and ~$500k in retirement and non-retirement investments with no debt. All in all not bad for someone in their early 30s (not amazing I know but not bad).
Money which was my sole driver for most of my life no longer motivates me because I’m comfortable and I’m not a particularly big spender anyway. Once you got to the point of comfortable, what did you do next? How did you motivate yourself to keep going?
I don’t mind my job – don’t love it…don’t hate it. You know what equities research is like. It’s mentally stimulating and interesting but basically I know my coverage universe back to front and reporting seasons have started to feel like ground hog day.
I make ~$250k p.a. pre tax, but I’ve pretty much capped out here and if I want to step up in role / wage I’ve got to move funds which is doable but challenging and I really don’t have the “why” to do it just yet.
I thought perhaps working towards FIRE would be a good goal, but that’s just money motivating me again and once I get to that point, what’s next?
Thanks heaps for taking the time to read this.
Motivating Yourself To Keep Building Wealth
Hi Gus,
Thanks for your question. After about 10 years of aggressively saving and working post college, I started feeling the same way about money. Being rich is pointless if your mountain of cash has no purpose. Therefore, find a purpose bigger than yourself. As soon as you tie specific goals for your money, your money will become much more meaningful. With more meaning, comes more motivation.
Here are some common goals for your money to consider:
* Not having to work as much so you can spend more time with your child.
* Being able to comfortably pay for your child’s education and help him out when he stumbles.
* Having the option to take a new job you love that doesn’t pay well.
* Helping your parents and in-laws with financial matters.
* Spending your time on a cause or donating to a cause that has special meaning to you.
Increase Awareness About Wealth Inequity
Your motivation will also increase the more aware you are of what you have. For example, less than 5% of the population makes $250,000 a year or more. But for a 30-something year old, you’re in the top 1% income earner for your age group. With this in mind, I would hold onto your $250,000 a year job until you can no longer take it, or until you’ve found something better to do.
It’s very easy to get used to a comfortable lifestyle (hedonic adaptation), even if you’ve come from a humble background. Since nothing good lasts forever, you should take advantage of your situation until it’s gone.
Hearing other people’s stories of struggle and being aware of unemployment, poverty, and homelessness statistics will prevent you from taking your situation for granted. Count your blessings regularly.
My Motivation Comes From Finding Enjoyment
The main reason why I left my finance job was because I found writing online to be way more fun (found another purpose). Although it paid 70% – 90% less in the beginning, I didn’t care because I loved everything about creating an online media business.
Hearing other people’s perspectives is enjoyable. I also like helping people with their financial problems since we all have them. Keep on searching for something that gets you up every morning without an alarm clock!
My main motivation now is earning enough to take care of my family and being a good role model for my son and now daughter. I’ve never felt this much motivation before because everything I do is now no longer for me.
Always remember your WHY. If you never forget, you will have all the motivation in the world.
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Life After Financial Independence
Always Be The Underdog If You Want To Get Ahead
The Biggest Downside To Paying Off Your Mortgage Early
Solutions To Impossible Things
Overcoming The Downer Of No Longer Making Maximum Money
Readers, how do you motivate yourself if you have already achieved financial independence or you’re no longer interested in becoming rich? What are other things besides money that motivate you?
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“Ahh…..the downside of financial success. You realize when you get there that you are still the same person and instead of finding the happiness you thought was at the other end, you are strangely let down as you realize the journey was maybe the fun part.”
Very well said. It seems to be more a case of planning for FI, but to not expect it as an end goal. What’s the point of waiting until late in life to finally enjoy yourself? I actually had to force myself to spend money on myself, since I was being so frugal I was missing out on a lot of things.
I’m 31 (single), and don’t have what you’d consider FI, but I am doing a lot better than most of my peers. I just passed six figures for salary (114k) and half a million in NW, which I know may not seem like a lot to some people here, but it’s a lot to me, especially since I started making $18 an hour. Only because it’s the bay area I don’t have a mortgage and am still renting with roommates :|.
But since I’m in a more comfortable position, I’ve tried to enjoy things more. I’m at the point where saving another 100k or earning another 25k doesn’t change my life at all. It’s a really weird feeling, like when I just had a 20k increase in salary and I didn’t really feel happier. I still save like crazy, but going from 400k in NW to 500k in NW was a non-event. Not like when I hit that first 100k.
Total aside:
I still have coworkers that are so happy when it’s payday, then give me an all judging look when I tell them the equivalent of “so what?”. Really, you’re in your late 30s and you still need to count on that paycheck coming in so you can spend money? Why I pretty much have to keep this all to myself. Why it is seen to many as a negative to be financially responsible?