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Why Do People Like To Reveal Their Income? Arrogance And Pride

Updated: 08/09/2021 by Financial Samurai 99 Comments

Why do people like to reveal their income? Is it due to arrogance and pride? Or maybe it’s because these people are so insecure with themselves they feel a need to boast.

It hit me the other day that none of the people I know in the top 1% have ever revealed their incomes to me. I’ve got a good idea of how much they make and what their assets look like. But beyond some vagaries, details have never been disclosed. The rich practice stealth wealth.

Contrast a top income earner’s desire for privacy to those who make less than $470,000 a year. The desire for people not in the top 1% to reveal their income is so much higher!

Try Not To Reveal Your Income

In the post, “Never Tell Anybody Your Income” I highlight all the downsides of revelation. Most agree, but some don’t because they say it “inspires others” or simply don’t care.

There may be some sort of inspiration involved, but what about those who get inspired to rob you for having more? It’s dangerous to hover outside of the middle class in today’s society. During the Cultural Revolution from 1966 to 1976, the wealthy Chinese were often flogged and publicly ridiculed.

If you read The Millionaire Next Door by Dr. Stanley, you will see the constant theme of being discreet with one’s wealth – drive old cars, wear discount clothing, live in a modest house and so forth.

At the same time, it’s no fun being so parsimonious that you miss out on all the spoils of wealth. The large majority of surveyed participants are also older than the median American age of 35. Such millionaires spent their lifetimes building wealth. They aren’t about to have some stranger or the government try and take it away.

There are two main goals for this post. The first goal is to better understand why some people like to reveal their income. The second goal is to find a balance on this site for my own income revelations to be used as examples in future posts.

It’s much more useful to see actual figures in an example rather than talk in percentages. At the same time, I don’t want to come across sounding like an arrogant bastard.

Why People Like To Reveal Their Income

Here are some commonalities I’ve noticed by those who enjoy talking about how much they make. I’m also drawing from my own experience when I revealed portions of my income in other posts.

Younger demographic. 

Maybe it’s a generational thing, but those who enjoy talking about how much money they make are generally younger e.g. under 40. Dr. Stanley and his subjects are all over 50. Perhaps thanks to the internet, it’s more acceptable nowadays to blast over Twitter and Facebook that it’s your birthday or a picture of your latest car.

There have been several studies showing that Facebook is making people miserable because suddenly they have to compete with hundreds of “virtual Joneses” instead of a couple.

A need to prove worth.

When you’re young, it’s easy for others to overlook your talents. Why should anybody take a 27 year old financial analyst seriously when he’s only had five years of experience? Only until I turned 30 did I feel fully confident to talk to anybody about economics, politics, and investments.

When a client asked me when I was 24 years old how long I’ve been in the business, I responded, “My entire career.” Use this line sometime. It works! Money is not a great barometer for worth, but it is one of the easiest variables to measure.

Lower self-esteem. 

The people who are most confident have no need to tell anybody how much they make. They don’t need to buy a fancy car to make themselves feel better. They don’t need to incessantly highlight they went to X school and have Y things because their work and success speaks for themselves.

Maybe those who constantly highlight their income do so in order to make up for deficiencies in fitness, education, or love. Perhaps they fell behind in life early on and need to pound their income drum to prove to the world they are somebody.

How many of us have imagined returning to our high school reunion as great successes to prove our detractors wrong? By reveal their income, some of these graduates can peacock their way up the status ladder.

The desire for adoration.

Adoration and self-esteem are tightly related. Have you ever met someone who was in good shape and keeps telling others she needs to lose weight?

The reason why she brings up her weight is so that her friends can tell her she doesn’t need to lose weight! Everybody wants to feel pretty, respected, admired, and adored. It’s just one of our many traits as humans.

New wealth. 

If you go from not having much money to suddenly making a lot of money, it’s hard not to get excited. An easy example is going from a poor student to making $100,000 a year as a first year analyst at an investment bank. There is immense attitude from Type A finance folks in NYC.

Now imagine if you won the lottery. Although you probably shouldn’t tell everybody, you would be hard pressed not tell all your friends and relatives about your good fortune. You buy a new house you don’t need when you can’t even fill the one you have.

Instead of figuring out a way to make your new found wealth work for you, you blow it on material things that provide only momentary reward. It’s immaturity with money that gets people in trouble.

Lack of perspective.

There’s a lot of suffering out there, but it’s hard to know if you’ve never traveled around the country or around the world. It’s like Prince Siddhartha Gautama believing that the whole world lived in privilege like he did within the walls of his palace. 

At the age of 29, Siddhartha left his palace for the first time to meet his subjects despite his father’s efforts to hide him from the sick, aged and suffering. The outside world moved Siddhartha so much that he strove to overcome aging, sickness, and death by shunning luxuries and living the life of an ascetic.

Eventually, he discovered the “Middle Way” and after 49 days of meditation under a Bodhi Tree, tradition says Siddhartha finally achieved enlightenment.

Cultural differences. 

In Asian culture being self-effacing is important. If you cook a gourmet dinner for your friends, your response to a compliment is, “It’s nothing. I hope you enjoy the food because I’m a terrible cook.” This is despite the fact you are a master chef who spent five hours slaving away in the kitchen beforehand (haven’t you seen The Joy Luck Club yet?).

In Western culture the response might be a little different, “Thanks. I found these tips and added my own secret sauce.”  There are subtle differences in responses that portend to very different attitudes about accomplishments.

Other people like to know.

It’s always interesting to voyeur into other people’s finances because it allows us to figure out where we stand and where we need to improve. I don’t ask anybody for such information, but if they provide monetary details, then why not check it out. It’s fun to see where people stand and compare.

In the online world, income and net worth reports attract visitors. Bloggers love to reveal their income! Increasing visitors is what it’s all about.

Some have even smartly used their income reports to make more income. Hence, if people like to know, we might as well give the people what they want to build our audience.

Maybe Income Revelation Shouldn’t Be Taboo

Unless the person I’m talking to makes a tremendous amount more than me, I always regret highlighting my income even if they beg me to tell. Once I do, it’s as if I’ve minimized their accomplishments.

As a result, I always make it a point for someone to go first in talking income. This way, I have a chance to adjust downwards if necessary. Most of the time I just avoid the subject altogether.

As a personal finance writer, things get a little tricky because I feel the same way about revealing income in person as I do online. Even though the income demographic on Financial Samurai is skewed towards a higher band of $85,000-$150,000 a year, due to the shear number of new visitors from search there are plenty of potentially loyal readers who make much less.

Offending people is not the way to build a community. At the same time, how do I best illustrate investment strategies or various passive income ideas without providing actual figures?

I’ve got a couple posts that provides some very revealing figures that I’m not entirely comfortable publishing. One is a my passive income rankings with my latest passive income figure.

The other post is about how accumulating your first million dollars might be much easier when you are young. I feel these posts will fulfill curiosity for long time readers who want to achieve financial independence.

At the same time, I can see how these posts will piss people off who are struggling to get by. Heck, plenty of people online are angry for a short 300 word post saying there is no monopoly on being rich!

In conclusion, unless your occupation is to teach people how to make money by showing them how much money you make, I advise caution revealing your income. It’s much better to keep things low key, downplay what you’ve got, and be the underdog to get ahead.

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  1. Financial Samurai says

    March 6, 2013 at 9:14 am

    Thanks for your perspective. It will be interesting to see if income revelation feelings change for your generation over time. I think the more you end up making and accumulating, the more you will find discussing how much you make to be harder.

    Let me know in 10-15 years!

    Reply
  2. Financial Samurai says

    March 6, 2013 at 9:05 am

    It is funny how everybody has an opinion on how we should spend our money once they know isn’t it? I’m guilty of asking one of my very wealthy friends to buy a Ferrari so we can go for joy rides. :)

    Reply
  3. Financial Samurai says

    March 6, 2013 at 9:03 am

    Munger is a smart man. He discusses Yin and Yang here.

    Reply
  4. Mike says

    March 6, 2013 at 5:45 am

    My military income is publicly available anyhow. My online income is something I show to demonstrate to people both that making money online is difficult, yet possible. My net worth and drive toward building assets serves as both a cautionary tale and a demonstration of correction.

    I think when you begin to build success around other metrics beside money, transparency becomes much easier!

    Reply
    • Financial Samurai says

      March 6, 2013 at 9:16 am

      I do like your online income reports Mike, and your cautionary tale regarding net worth is helpful. I do wonder though when you break out to the upside for your net worth and really accumulate a lot whether you’ll be as open. Who knows?

      Reply
      • Mike says

        March 6, 2013 at 1:40 pm

        A very good question and one that I haven’t considered until now. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it, but I tend to linger over questions that puzzle me, so you can expect that I will over the next few days…

        Though I can always point to Pat Flynn, who makes more in a month than the average annual salary of most Americans. He still puts it out there!

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  5. Mike Hunt says

    March 6, 2013 at 3:21 am

    Sam,

    I am considering dropping 500 big ones to buy this watch… the first ridiculous purchase I’ve ever considered making:

    https://luxatic.com/richard-mille-rm-057-dragon-jackie-chan-watch/

    I think it would go up in value over time and would be pretty cool. There is a dialogue going on between the two sides of my personality on this at present. Any thoughts from you, respected Samurai?

    -Mike

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 6, 2013 at 9:18 am

      You should do it Mike. Jackie is an icon. He was incredible in Drunken Master. How big is 500 big ones though? $500? $500,000?

      Reply
      • Mike Hunt says

        March 6, 2013 at 3:27 pm

        $500K USD! RM makes the most expensive watches in the world! Still think I should do it?

        Reply
        • Financial Samurai says

          March 6, 2013 at 3:28 pm

          If you love it and can afford it, go for it. I’m sticking with sub $20,000 watches myself.

          You’ll enjoy this post I wrote: https://www.budgetsaresexy.com/2012/12/how-to-make-money-selling-watches/

          I used to be a big watch collector.

          Reply
        • Mike Hunt says

          March 7, 2013 at 5:18 am

          I’ll have to think about it – it’s about 16% of my NW… I’m alternating hot and cold about getting it…

          -Sudi

          Reply
        • Mike Hunt says

          March 7, 2013 at 5:43 am

          That link was awesome. I’m glad I asked your advice!

          Reply
  6. anon says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    For the past 20 yrs or so I have worked as a manager, so I know the salary of people who are in my group, as I get to tell them their salary increases whenever that happens. Of course I never discuss one person’s income with another. However since I am basically told by my management who gets what, I do have the chance to tell my manager my opinion of who deserves what.
    So not the same as discussing one’s own salary. But also interesting.
    As it happens, no one who ever worked for me earned more than me.
    On the other hand, I have ever told anyone my salary; aside from some tax professionals, mortgage bankers. I did tell my wife though. Since I do our taxes, I know how much she makes too ;-)

    Reply
    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 9:30 pm

      Would you be OK if one of your colleagues below you made more than you?

      It happens all the time with high performing sales people vs their managers.

      Reply
  7. Squirrelers says

    March 5, 2013 at 7:39 pm

    I suspect some people share income either to brag, to offer up information in the hope that you share your information, or they are just naive. Admittedly, I do have some interest, but I’m more private about sharing.

    Reply
  8. E. Rek says

    March 5, 2013 at 5:22 pm

    Similar to doing taxes like Jacob, I once worked as a credit analyst for a commercial bank. I had to analyze the creditworthiness of individuals and small LLCs seeking commercial real estate loans. I was amazed to see the annual income and net worth of many of these people. All of them had net worths between $1MM – $10MM, mostly in real estate. Just relatively small real estate investors working for themselves and operating in a 90K population southern university town. Of course this was in the early ’00s. I left that job in ’06 before the real estate crash. I heard it was not pretty for these guys.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 6, 2013 at 9:15 am

      Good to know. I’ve always believed there is way more wealth out there than anybody really knows. Those folks might have gotten hit, but it’s back to good times baby! Hope they held on.

      Reply
  9. Tony@WeOnlyDoThisOnce says

    March 5, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    Sam: what a thoughtful post, man! I felt a bit guilty reading this post, but at the same time I feel as if I have come full circle.

    I was a starving artist, making barely any money as a trombone player (and being told I would never make any money too!!). I worked my tail off in the music biz and ended up making $250k a year…all in music. I was freaking proud. And yes….I told people! But it still came from insecurity.

    It all doesn’t matter. Who freaking cares, really? In the big scheme of things, it is the life you lead and the people you help that is most important. Which is why I am taking a huge pay cut soon and just doing the work I love…still in the music biz (YES, there is GOOD and BAD work even in a beautiful career).

    Reply
    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      Tony, making $250K/year in the music business is impressive! Now that is a post I’d love to read!

      Reply
  10. Jacob @ iHeartBudgets says

    March 5, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    I have gone back and forth on sharing net worth, but never income online. Since I’m not anonymous, I can’t share my income online per my employee contract. And sharing my online income wouldn’t be inspiring ;)

    It’s funny, though, I would hesitate sharing my income to strangers, but share all the time with close friends and family. And it’s never in a competitive way, it’s in a relative way, to show how having a budget can make dollars go further. For example, my parents make much more than we do, but their money just disappears, they have no assets, and only have a retirement because my Dad works for the city. I try to show them how they can have more of what they want and less of what they don’t if they could just put together a budget and work on sticking to it.

    As a side note: I’m a tax professional, so I also get to see people’s incomes every year. It definitely is interesting, and shows me what industries make money, and which ones don’t. It also kind of inspires me to NOT do taxes any more, because I’m doing the tax work for a lot of small businesses, and they’re building something they love. I mean, I’d like to be the guy on the other end, building a successful small business doing something I love. And I’ve found that taxes are not necessarily my passion, though I enjoy doing them.

    tl;dr
    – I don’t share my income online, but might share net worth
    – I share income with friends and family to help them
    – Taxes are not exciting like I thought they would be (go figure)

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 3:12 pm

      Ahh… taxes… the bain… I find ways to reduce taxes exciting, but definitely not doing the taxes or someone else’s for that matter.

      What industries have you found make the most? And is it true that starting a business is the best way you’ve seen people shelter their income or reduce taxes? What strategies have you noticed? Thx

      Reply
      • Jacob @ iHeartBudgets says

        March 6, 2013 at 1:19 pm

        Engineering and computer sciences end up really paying well after about 10 years of service, with amazing benefits and bonuses as well. And the small businesses I am doing taxes for are still getting off the ground, so pay VERY little in taxes, but they honestly get KILLED in SE taxes. I would say growing a small business to making $40k+ profit, then incorporating is a great way to protect assets, and if done right, help reduce SE taxes. But as always, consult your tax guy before making any of those decisions.

        I wrote a recent post called “tax deductions are a bad investment”. I find that when people eat up their losses and start up costs and start making a profit from their business, they get irrational and want to reduce their tax bill by spending money, but the math is bass ackwards. There are many other (better) strategies for reducing taxes, soe you have even highlighted recently on this blog!

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  11. Financial Samurai says

    March 5, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    Indeed. It depends who you share the income info w/, however, sharing the info with other folks in your space also causes a lot of problems. Trust me on this one! Once the info is out, it’s impossible to take back. I say go for it if you want. Just fade it away when you start making way over averages.

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  12. Darwin's Money says

    March 5, 2013 at 12:33 pm

    I don’t think it’s a generational thing from a behavioral standpoint; people our age just happen to talk to people our age more often and openly. Our parents all knew people who talked about what they made too. I think the income gap has widened considerably which has created a whole generation of 20-somethings making 6 figures and 30-somethings making $250K and up. Even correcting for inflation, going back a generation or two this was quite rare. So, there are simply more very highly compensated people to talk about their income in the current generation.

    People that talk about what they make without some legitimate reason usually have self-esteem issues. Years ago, I used to do blogging reports because it was related to blogging, making money online and I’d throw some affiliate links in there. I’ve never talked about my actual real salary though, online or to my friends or family. I don’t even think my wife has any idea what my W-2 income or blogging income is.

    Reply
    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 1:13 pm

      Your wife doesn’t know what you make? Now that is impressive! Do you need to know what she makes?

      Reply
      • Darwin's Money says

        March 7, 2013 at 4:33 pm

        She could probably guess within $25K. But if someone asked, “what’s his salary, his bonus/stock/options each year, his online income”?… she would have difficulty coming close on any one of the three or combined.

        What does she make? She’s invaluable :> (home w the kids and keeping my life more manageable these days; things will be very crazy when she goes back to work)

        Reply
  13. Christine says

    March 5, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    I didn’t know about revealing your income online until I started reading personal finance blogs. And while I was shocked I really enjoyed reading it! I don’t like the taboo attitude about money. Though I do agree if you made too much money it could be a problem to reveal your income.

    I also enjoy your injections of Buddhist stories in your articles! I was talking to a friend about the Buddha recently and his life before he went to meditate.. Apparently an everyday conversational piece ;)

    Reply
    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 1:33 pm

      Glad you enjoyed the injection. I enjoy the Buddha’s teachings as it pertains to all and is not forced upon others.

      Religion was also one of my favorite classes in college, but I ended up getting a B- no matter how much I studied!

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  14. cubicle free Quinn says

    March 5, 2013 at 12:20 pm

    Sure am looking forward to your future posts! As you know I reveal my monthly income and although its not that high, I think it shows my progress or otherwise. I simply think it is an indicator of how I am doing and hopefully inspiration for some. At first I really disliked being so open but there is no question that I get the most interest when I post my monthly income reports. Quinn

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 1:35 pm

      Stay tuned then for the annual passive income retitiremnt report. I plan to really emphasize the “how” part of it. The thing is, I’m really focused on building an audience beyond the blog world. Bloggers can find my thoughts on the same on Yakezie.com.

      Reply
  15. Untemplater says

    March 5, 2013 at 10:40 am

    Money can be a really touchy subject. I have no plans to reveal details of my income to anyone, friends and family included. Getting too personal with income can change relationships and I wouldn’t want someone to like me more or less based on the amount of money that I make or don’t make.

    I do share certain aspects of my income through financial goals and budgeting though. People are inherintly curious about other peoples wealth and income though, so some people will always want to dig for info, or share their info whether it be for educational purposes or more for just gossip.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:23 am

      Financial goals and budgeting seem fine. I guess it’s nice to provide occasional updates on how such goals are progressing. I’m thinking once a year on the passive income side. Not sure if more is necessary. Too much gossip exists. I hate gossip.

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  16. Mrs. Pop @ Planting Our Pennies says

    March 5, 2013 at 9:55 am

    We share our full income statement every month on our blog (February’s went up yesterday). Yes, the top line is cash income (after withholding), but I think the more useful part of the report is the rest of the income statement – the expenses. Where our money goes and how much is left behind as savings/investment/debt payment each month.
    We’ve shared vague generalities on income with other friends, but mostly just ones that are considering applying at Mr. PoP’s work, or if we’re talking retirement planning. In general, the IRL friends that we have shared our income levels with are all in the same marginal tax bracket, so it’s more to share strategies and never to make anyone feel bad.
    I guess I tend to look at pay like other work benefits like health insurance or vacation days. It’s socially acceptable to talk about those, yet I think telling someone you get to take 30+ paid vacation days every year when they get 10 (or even none!) is likely to inspire as much or more envy than if that person told you they earned 8% more than you. After all, they’re basically getting paid for an extra month’s worth of work that they get to take as time off that you don’t get.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:22 am

      I don’t think I’d ever tell anybody with only 10 vacation days that I’ve got 30+ vacation days paid. That would make them feel bad, don’t you think?

      Vacation and pay is a good analogy though for higher income though.

      Reply
  17. The First Million is the Hardest says

    March 5, 2013 at 9:52 am

    I reveal and regularly update the status of my investments on my site, but I don’t think I’d be comfortable revealing my income or my entire net worth as some other bloggers do. I share what I share in order to have some level of transparency and show that I am practicing the things I preach on my blog.

    I think its to each his/her own. I’ve never really noticed a whole lot of commonalities between people who are open about their incomes either online or in real life. To me theres no big difference between generally knowing someone makes 1% money or knowing that they make exactly $667k/year.

    In your case Sam, I don’t think you have to worry about offending or making people angry if you choose to reveal such things in your posts. You write a lot about retiring early, being financially independent and what it takes to get there. I think in a way, using personal examples can strengthen your point because you’ve actually done it. There is a difference between revealing in context and doing so just to make sure people know.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:21 am

      There’s definitely an element of practice what you preach that every blogger should incorporate. Revealing in context.. very important. I’ll continue to work on the upcoming posts.

      Reply
  18. John S @ Frugal Rules says

    March 5, 2013 at 9:44 am

    I am of similar thought to Eric on this. Beyond my we, we really do not share publicly or with friends what our income is. I am a fairly private person by nature and not sharing income naturally goes with that. Working for many years in the financial industry I have just come to the thought those things should be kept private as I can not really gain much from someone telling me how much they make or vice-versa. At the end of the day it’s not really anyone’s business what I make nor do I really seek to find out what others make.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:19 am

      It’s even more sensitive in the finance industry. I enjoy privacy as well. When I was younger, I had to constantly fight back the urge to boast about my income and assets. Now, it’s fun going stealth wealth. I just have to not go too far, and I do want to write more insightful income/wealth related posts.

      Reply
  19. E. Rek says

    March 5, 2013 at 9:35 am

    The public records laws in my state are pretty open. It’s very easy to get salary information for state and local government workers. In fact, there are a few websites that have done all the work and make it easy to search and view.

    When I worked for a city government I had full access to view payroll data. I remember one time when, during one particular fiscal year, the firm policy was no raises. I was working on a compensation report and was angry when I discovered that the HR Manager got a 7.5% raise during this no-raise fiscal year.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:18 am

      Yeah, now that is shady. How do you be in HR and get a 7.5% raise in a no-raise fiscal year? Somebody scratching or doing something w/ somebody.

      Reply
  20. krantcents says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:56 am

    I am not sure if people like revealing their income. I think a lot of people want to know your income. There is nothing positive about revealing your income! Some will be jealous others will resent it if you are more successful. I think in most cases, you can figure it out anyway without asking. Maybe, I am old school, but I see only negatives by answering this question.

    I think the people who ask as least likely to become successful because they are concentrating on the money. Successful people are thinking about the goal not the amount of money they will make.

    Reply
    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:17 am

      Although you are older than me, I’m in your camp as well. I can’t get over the hurdle of income revelation online these days, hence this post to try to come to grips with both sides.

      Reply
  21. Mike says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:54 am

    It is interesting to see a difference in how some people reveal their incomes and others choose to avoid sharing how much that they earn on a regular basis. I think it kinda depends on the “microsociety” that an individual grows up in.

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  22. Andrea says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:34 am

    I think I mentioned this when you posted about why people shouldn’t reveal income, but I am pretty open about mine. First, I don’t have a large income, so I don’t feel like I’m bragging – in fact, it’s more the opposite. I think people feel like I know where they’re coming from when they see that I’m paying off debt and reaching financial goals without a ton of money coming in, especially since most of my readers are single moms like me.

    Another reason I disclose my income is because my parents were/are completely tight-lipped about theirs. I have never had any idea what my dad made, not even a ballpark (and still don’t). My parents missed a lot of opportunities to talk to me about managing finances because they were so scared I might find out their income level. I want my son to grow up knowing, “Okay, my mom makes this amount of money and this is how she allocates it. If I have a similar income (which is likely in our geographic area), I need to focus on X, Y, and Z.”

    If I ever start making significantly more money, I probably won’t be as open about how much I make. I don’t want to alienate people. But right now it’s less “let me brag about what I’ve got” and more “if I can make it on so little money, there’s no excuse for not gaining control of yours.”

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:17 am

      I like your reason a lot. Showing folks they can make it with less is inspiring to me and probably many others. Perhaps you should make an income revelation series then?

      To be able to relate to as many people as possible is one of the keys to online growth. Given most people make under $60,000 a year, then go for it if you’re below that as well.

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  23. Eric J. Nisall - DollarVersity says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:27 am

    I’ve never made any of my info public, whether on my blog or to friends. I just don’t see a need for anyone to know. There isn’t much benefit to it in my eyes, and the drawbacks are too big.

    Part of it is trust, especially down here, where I don’t want to question peoples’ reasons for being around me. Part of it has to do with not wanting to put a target on my back (or not) for potential scammers or thieves. Part of it is just the simple fact that it isn’t any of peoples’ business to know that stuff about me. Part is because I don’t need people coming out of the woodwork looking for handouts regardless of what they call it (sponsorship, donation, advertising)

    On the other hand, I do talk about investments and do tax returns for others so I get to know their info. Some would probably say that I owe it to them to reveal mine to “be even” but I say to hell with that.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:15 am

      Professions that find out other people’s incomes is always fascinating to me e.g. accountants, bankers, tellers, tax folks etc. Everybody is human, and surely many gossip about the private financials they’ve seen.

      W/ more income, comes more unfair expectations.

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  24. Martin says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:10 am

    Maybe because of a credibility? Lots of bloggers reveal their income because I imagine they want to attract more readers. So they post their income so that others want to join in.

    I don’t know why anyone would reveal their income in person. It makes no sense. Most of my friends that make really good money have never revealed it or even hinted at it. You can just tell that they make good money from their job titles.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:14 am

      Probably. I think it’s way more telling in the long run to do, not just say. Anybody can say they make XYZ. But can anybody take the time to craft content that shows how to make XYZ? That’s the difference.

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  25. American Debt Project says

    March 5, 2013 at 8:01 am

    I sometimes want to reveal my income (whether online or in daily life) but I remember not to because I still want to be making much more. I know it’s possible and by keeping my current income in the dark, it was easier for me to negotiate a higher consulting rate for a new side gig I just took on (albeit one that I have been working on getting since October!). I also heard this statement once, “Anyone who’s making less than you thinks you’re getting overpaid.”. So I keep a low profile…

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:13 am

      Now that is a great quote. I agree. We can’t hep but think we deserve more than we do, and always look to critique others who make more.

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  26. TB at BlueCollarWorkman says

    March 5, 2013 at 6:47 am

    I tend to agree, man. If I make more than someone, then that’ll only make them feel bad and make things all weird. If they make more than me, then I’m sure I’ll feel jealous adn probably think in my head how I deserve to maek more than them. And that ain’t a great way to keep friends either. So if we all just keep quiet about it, unless it’s somehwo super important in some weird way, then we can all stay cool.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:13 am

      Better to always let everyone know you make less than you do as a result!

      Reply
  27. shaun says

    March 5, 2013 at 6:14 am

    I discuss income with my friends from college who were in the same field as me quite a bit and get pretty detailed. It’s not so much a competition, more for getting a real idea of the marketplace. When you’re out of school if one company is paying young kids 70k and another 50k to do the same job knowing vs not knowing this can mean a 40% increase in pay. I try not to discuss money with coworkers as that information is probably going to make them hate you if you make more than them. Also companies I’ve work for try really hard to keep how much they’re paying people a secret so that you won’t request a raise or try to leave because of lack of knowledge.

    You need some way to figure out what you’re worth to your company and online surveys of job titles doesn’t really do it justice.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:12 am

      Yeah, talking w/ co-workers about your income is really going to stir up a hornets nest. Definitely don’t do it folks! Even your closest co-worker friends, be a little vague. If you can get info, great. But, I wouldn’t disclose.

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  28. Ross says

    March 5, 2013 at 6:08 am

    So when I started my blog, I didn’t reveal my income. Eventually I decided that it might help people understand where I’m coming from (close to median income), so I published it. One surprising result is that I’ve gotten a few requests from readers to help them similarly invest their median range salaries. I didn’t start the blog to help people, but it’s an interesting opportunity I might not have gotten if I didn’t reveal about how much I earn.

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:11 am

      Ross, makes sense if you are hovering around the median and everybody makes more or less. It’s when you start making above the median where things get a little dicey.

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  29. Mike Hunt says

    March 5, 2013 at 5:22 am

    I’d add another reason:

    Competition: If you’ve been given a lucky break or worked your way up and are in the top 10% of income or net worth then you want to know what it takes to get to the next level. Once you are in the top 1% then you can look to the top 0.5%, 0.1%, etc… Putting your income / net worth out there helps you benchmark this. Also studying someone in the next tier can give you ideas to emulate or a mindset change so you can re-focus. It can be constructive in a semi-anonymous setting.

    I would never divulge my income or net worth to colleagues, even close ones. Either you are making more or less than them and both can cause jealousy or bad feelings. I even tell colleagues that rent and expenses are tough, that is what they want to hear I see. There is no point telling them I haven’t paid rent or a mortgage in 7 years and am saving a ton of my take home income. Also no point telling them that I am getting bored with work simply because, even with saving 70% of my income each year, I can only grow my net worth 6% a year by working and saving.

    Your friends in the top 1% are quite wise indeed.

    -Mike

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:10 am

      Sounds like a never ending comparison study that leaves one feeling unfulfilled.

      The higher you go, there really is no point, except to feel adored. You’ve financially won, so I think it’s better to just give back instead.

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  30. Michelle says

    March 5, 2013 at 5:13 am

    I’m guilty of sharing my extra income (as I did yesterday), but I have never shared our overall income or income that we make from our actual jobs. I figure I’m a semi-anonymous blogger and a lot of people come to my blog to hear about different ways to make extra income, so it’d be better if I showed them what I make as extra income. Basically so that I’m not talkin’ the talk and not walkin’ the walk :)

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    • Financial Samurai says

      March 5, 2013 at 11:09 am

      Makes sense. What about showing readers how you made the income instead of just showing the income? That would be a great addition.

      Reply
      • Michelle says

        March 5, 2013 at 11:17 am

        I have made plenty of posts showing readers how I make the extra income. I have a page dedicated to all of the posts that I have made on it so that readers can find everything easily makingsenseofcents.com/extra-income

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