Yale law professor and mother of two Amy Chua penned an incredibly fascinating article entitled, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” on the WSJ. Professor Chua is a first generation American who went to Harvard undergrad and then to Harvard Law School. As a tenured professor teaching at the most prestigious law school in the world, I feel for her kids first and foremost! Think about all the expectations that are put on them since her husband, Jeb, is also a tenured law professor at Yale.
Let’s say you had parents who walked 10 miles to school every day. Do you think there’s a snowball’s chance in hell that you will have a car in high school? You might, but you’d feel guilty every time you get behind the wheel and your parents will likely remind you as well. In the end, you’d probably compromise and either bike to work, have your parents drop you off, or walk yourself.
Here’s a non-offensive excerpt from her article where she justifies calling kids names such as “lazy”, “fatty”, “worthless”, “stupid”, and “disgraces” when they aren’t performing up to par:
“As a parent, one of the worst things you can do for your child’s self-esteem is to let them give up. On the flip side, there’s nothing better for building confidence than learning you can do something you thought you couldn’t.” Amy Chua
I agree with her quote, but I definitely don’t agree with calling one’s kids names to shame them into conforming. The main issue I have with Amy’s view is that she pits Asian mothers against “Western Mothers” who are by default deemed inferior. I would be incredibly insulted if I was a Western Mother because who is Amy to impose her dictator-like ways on me. Amy talks in stereotypes all article long about how Asian children always seem to be gifted in math & sciences and music. Amy argues that it is in fact no coincidence since Asian mothers are such master motivators and disciplinarians.
NATURE vs. NURTURE