Why Do Women Go Out With Deadbeat Losers?

doggieMen are dogs. If you give us an inch, we’ll take a mile. But, if you put us on a leash, we’ll gnaw it off and go even more crazy once we’re free.  There’s a fine balance between loving your man and smothering your man.

There are countless posts online where women complain about their deadbeat boyfriends for never paying for anything, never buying them gifts, always playing video games all day long while still living at home in their parent’s basement, and never holding on to a job for more than a year to save their lives. Yet, these women still latch on, hoping they’ll one day change their man for the better.

Which begs the question: With a male world population of 3+ billion, why on earth would any woman ever settle for a deadbeat loser?


Settling for a deadbeat loser is like settling for a job you hate. There are way too many people who hate their jobs and keep on doing them, just like there are way too many women who settle for men who treat them poorly. What is it about non-ideal situations which makes us keep carrying on, doing nothing to change? If you hate your job, get laid with a nice severance check in hand!

My theory is that in the beginning, most women don’t know the guy is a deadbeat loser. He probably is reasonably attractive and tells a good story about his current situation and his ambitions. Obviously, he will be on his best behavior during the wooing process. It might take one week, or it might take many months, but until a consummation is made, guys can be very charming! By the time a woman hooks up with the guy, only afterward will she see his true colors.

Her “oh, shit” moment comes at a time after she’s given everything to him. As we are generally all optimists, a woman believes she can salvage the relationship and change him for the better. Unfortunately, no matter how hard she tries, she can’t teach a gorilla how to put down the toilet seat, pay for dinner, and write her sweet notes of nothing. It’s too late, and eventually, the relationship fades.  In retrospect, every woman who has gone out with a deadbeat loser realizes the case. “I don’t know what I was thinking“, is a phrase that always comes up.


* We don’t believe we are worthy. Above all else, I believe that the reason why we settle for someone suboptimal is because we believe we aren’t deserving of more. This is utterly disappointing and ludicrous. You don’t deserve to be mistreated or taken advantage of ever!  You deserve to have someone love you back as much as you love them.  Those who ask for promotions get promotions.

* We’re afraid to be alone. Life isn’t worth living if there’s nobody special to share it with.  I’d rather be a median waged person with a loved one than be a lonely billionaire in the long run.  It’s irrational to think that you will die alone given the population of the world today.  Every day, we have the opportunity to meet a hundred people if we want to.  It just takes initiative.

* We think we can teach a dog how to speak. If there are five “must haves” such as humor, compassion, motivation, spontaneous, cultured and he has three out of five, the temptation is to settle.  Perhaps over time, you believe he’ll be able to develop the other two must haves and be that ideal guy.  You’ll be able to change him for the better, which is hardly ever the case.  The problem with this thought process is that he might actually lose one of the three must haves, and then you’re really going to feel bitter for wasting your precious youth on him!

* We’re afraid to get hurt. If we never try meeting other people, we will never get rejected.  It’s truly disheartening when someone else doesn’t show you the same interest as you’ve shown them. Guys get rejected left and right because for some reason, society has told us we always have to initiate. Rejection doesn’t get that much easier to deal with after a while.  Instead, we settle for what we have or just being a lone. That’s sad, because time isn’t on our side. The older women get, the smaller the pool since women refuse to be with men younger than them, whereas it’s everything goes for guys!

* We’re losers ourselves! I never thought about this until readers kept on mentioning that deadbeat women tend to go out with deadbeat men. Society always sees men as losers, and women as misguided. I guess there is equality for all, after all! Read the 175+ comments so far on this post with fascinating perspective from both men and women.


One of the best excuses women tell me for not wanting to be with an attractive guy who has all she wants is that she’s afraid she won’t be able to hang on to him. She’s afraid other women will be all over him, which will seriously stress her out. She’s also afraid as she grows older, he’ll stop wanting to be with her. But here’s the thing ladies. Men’s libido’s decline the older we get. It’s the friendship that we cherish more of, not the sexual activities, the older we get.

Not wanting to be with the hottest and nicest woman possible is hard for men to understand. We men think that it is better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all. Guys also love it when their woman gets all the attention from other guys. I guess it’s because guys ignorantly believe their women will never cheat on them. Of course, we all know women cheat on men as much as men cheat on women.


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Settling is such a weak thing to do. It screams of insecurity. You have the right to be happy because someone out there will truly value who you really are!

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    • Julia Lewis says

      I want to talk with them. I am done with the kind of shit for men that have been swarming around me for decades. DONE. Then I have to kick their asses to shreds in order for them to become better men? After the reject finds that he is no longer worthy to even know my name? Why are you men as stupid arrogant as you all appear to be. If you think that their are 13 women to your every man on this planet then go find them. I am the 14th that doesn’t want you. Go with the skank you are seeking and stay away from me. I am tired of training you were to shit and piss upon is not going to be ever me. You learn with the bitch that will put up with your scumloserness. Not me. I am done with you pieces of shit for men. You belong in your Scumshit Planet, not with myself. She is that idiot that puts up with your continued abuse of her. She is that dumbass women that hides the fact that your are as miserable as she is and you make the perfect match in your hell. I don’t want you. And your women knew this before your attacks upon me. She is that bitch that you have been with that you would falsely use my name to get your way with your skank. Stop blaming me for what you are. You lost me in your life and you needed to deal with the why’s not the who’s or what’s or where’s. I am not the problem. You are. If I state to get out of my life that doesn’t mean that you as a previous dumbass piece of shit that lost me are to force your way into my life with your skank of a woman to destroy my life over you using me as a weapon with her making her into my arch enemy due to both of you as womanizing pieces of shit in your own formed Scumshit Planet. How dare you pieces of shit for people. Get out. Stay out. Do not terrorize and attack my entire life and children due to you being primitive beasts for people who have nothing better to do than to treat me like you want to treat the skank that you have been dealing with who is not me. Get out of my life. I don’t care who you think you are. Or who you think you have become. Or who you think will make you a better man than that skank you used as a weapon you are stuck with. Get out of my life and stay out of it. Forever. You made your own dog bed with your nasty vicious bitch of a woman. You men that lost me know why you did and why you are duds to me. How dare you lie, cheat, steal from me over your problems and issues. How dare you violate me and my children why you know why you lost me in your lives. Get out. Stay out and know that you have not changed. You are not a better man. You have gotten worse with your nasty vicious bitch that had to hear your complaints with her not me. Tell her the truth of why you lost me in your life. And no longer use me or what delusions that your mentalities think of me in your past. You knew what your problems and issues where and are before your ever forced yourselves into my life and what the summation of your terrorism upon my life is the same as when you were rejected by me to get out of my life. You need your skank and she needs her scumloser. No matter what you tried to revenge me for it is you that never learns that I have enough weaponry in regard to you to show everyone that you remain that scumloser of a man that I do not want. I do not need. And that you endlessly chase your tail seeking that stupid idiot for a woman who thinks she is better than me when she is not and all that you are are womanizers and will never learn the difference. Feel better about your little arrogant ignorant skank scumlosers selves for attacking me falsely and wrongfully over who you are and I am not? Truth bite you and kick you in the ass once again? hm. GET OUT OF MY LIFE. Take your piece of shit with you, you nasty UGLY pieces of shit bitch.

    • michelle says

      I agree with everybody. I think that these guys are just manipulative, lieing losers. They prey on vulnerable women and make them believe they will give them the world. In retrospect, don’t go crying t mommy when she pulls a bobbitt on your precious little thang. Or she puts you six feet under. .May be you just got trickbagged by a lieing manipulative women version of yourself. So suck it up and pull your thumb out your ass. Im just saying.

  1. Victoria says

    I just want to voice another view of this debate. Some women like losers because they like to be in control. It is not the loser “using them for sex” as stated above, but the other way around. Not all women have bad self esteem or are trying to fix a man. Why is it that a man can date any loserish woman he wants yet no one posts about that? Yet if a woman chooses to sleep with a man with little life ambition but a great body, then all of a sudden she “can’t let go” and “has a mommy complex”. It’s a double standard. If men can use women for sex then I (a woman) can do the same too!

    • Jayson Johnson says

      I agree. My ex is love with a loser with no job, and living with friends. Despite our kids and home. Her emotional connection to this person more important than family. We’ve talked about getting back together, but she still goes on dates while dealing with this other low rent guy. It’s really depressing. Maybe she a loser too., that I should not got involved with in the first place

    • Michael says

      Well, that’s a theory, but there are plenty who are with guys that actually aren’t above average in looks or physique. You know, maybe that’s important to you, and that’s fine, but I don’t think that’s what anyone is really talking about here.

    • Michael says

      Besides, he’s not talking about someone just sleeping with a guy and accusing her of not being able to “let go.” He’s talking about someone who actually CAN’T let go. You’re comparing two different things. He’s talking about emotional attachment, and you’re talking about just plain physical attraction.

  2. Stacia says

    I know I am really late replying to this, but as a female who was engaged to a deadbeat, I feel the need to comment.

    I met Mr X on a music video set that I was a makeup artist for. At the time he seemed like everything I at 22 (albeit a very young 22) wanted. He worked full time, liked music, and was a Goth. I didn’t feel superior to him due to his lack of education or work (I had qualifications and completed secondary school, he dropped out), and I did not feel the need to ‘change’ him. I encouraged him to pursue his talent in art however, and remember telling him that working in a chafe at minimum wage was only fine if he intended on becoming the worlds best barrista, or it was his passion. I genuinely enjoyed spending time with Mr X and he was originally very emotionally supportive. Problems arose when we both went back to study. He refused to get a job, and mooched which resulted in us (me) going to in to NZD25k of debt. Not an ideal situation. Eventually I realised that at 32 his ways were essentially set in stone. He was happy living off of the student benefit, spending everything on alcohol and partying, not focussing on a school and failing. So I left. I knew I could not change him, and other than general support and encouragement partners give, never did. I am very self confidant, but didn’t look down on him. I guess it came down to being young and stupid and wanting a goth boyfriend.
    I am now 27, and am still dealing with the consequences of being with a deadbeat. My studies have gone on hold as I put paying back debt at upmost importance (most came from him not paying rent in favor of partying and getting tattoos) and have nearly payed off everything working a job I hate. I can’t believe how stupid I was, but it taught me incredible life lessons and has given me rocket fuel to try a succeed in the future, despite being 3 steps backwards.

    Sorry for the essay. I have dyspraxia so hope I expressed my view clearly.

    • says

      Thanks for sharing Stacia.

      It’s common to look back at our younger selves and ask what were we thinking.

      Also, I wonder if simple horniness plays a roll when we are young, overriding rationality.

  3. Very Serious says

    with so many very High Maintenance women that are out there today, they are the ones that are very horrible to meet because they really think they are all that. most of these type of women are looking for a man with a very large bank account, and just can’t accept many of us men for who we are. I would certainly say that they are really the Big Losers. very obvious why many of us men can’t meet a decent woman anymore, and we’re Not To Blame.

  4. wondering???? says

    I see this girl I know,
    shes a letter carrier,and is attractive. shes ben thru two divorces and now i see her with a scroungy guy thats unkept and no personality,and an attitude,
    she says hi to me in the market, but shes with him and and i can tell that he’s bad fron no talking and scroungy looks’
    what is wrong with this woman anyway.
    Im so tired of these woman around here that settle for low life’s,

  5. Yackeline says

    Yeah this article sounds 100% Legit! I feel bad for a lot of these girls, especially the ones that have to have my leftovers, my ex is a dead beat daddy, cower, fake, pedophile, mentally slow, loser. I mean this guy blackmailed me to stay by his side and threaten to kill himself if I left him (he has scars in his arms for me to blackmail me), he even got me pregnant on purpose to wrap me around his finger (I know this is personal but he never let me know when he did “you know”), when he had me there and I needed him, he cheated “he didn’t think I would find out”. I love our child but wow!… I feel so bad our baby has to have such poor excuse of a man for a father.

    I would never date a dead beat father! I think so low of men who don’t take care of their own child, PEOPLE you can ever trust that type of men if they do that to their own blood and flesh imagine what they would do to you. They just want to get laid and have fun also have some help with the bills (if they are loser without any higher education).

    FOR girls who date dead beats; It is so true that dead beat fathers make up a lot of lies and make their child’s mother sound like the bad guy, like they are crazy, and they say that they don’t let them see their kids. When really this is all a way to cover up for the scum bags and loser that they are. Ugh makes me sick!

    • mc says

      females won’t come out and say it but for some of them, it’s unfortunate, it may well be that the loser is what they want or their insecure…..

  6. Eric says

    People go out with “losers” because they don’t need to hold themselves accountable. Their own less than decent behavior is thereby justified. Being with a good person removes your own justification for being selfish. The dead beat loser won’t dump you for joining them in the gutter.

    Also, girls who only like bad boys are full of it. Real bad guys don’t want you to know they’re bad, see … they’re up to something …. usually for $$$. They’re looking to keep a low profile & stay out of jail. Like good men (not nice guys) they are busy.
    Some real outlaws do embody being a bad boy, like real bikers. They don’t have time for a girls BS either. Their reputation precedes them.

    The rebel they like is really a show off willing to play a girls silly games, they also are the type to attract the attention of the police, ending up in jail & doing the whole rebel image thing. The girls who like bad guys don’t even know who the real bad guys are. They just want some attention. They deserve each other.

  7. Johnny Lahmon says

    Men are dogs ? No, we’re not. This website is so misandrist, it’s ridicules. This is oppressive to men.

    • bongstar420 says

      Men’s behavior is the result of female selection pressures over millenia. Most women will only have sex with men who behave certain ways and most of those behaviors are correlated with Testosterone levels. It just so happens that those behaviors are are also correlated with a host of other behaviors that make actual relationships impossible.

  8. a1rh3ad says

    I lived with a deadbeat pothead woman for 8 years. I loved her so much because she was intelligent, witty, and had a passion for many of the things I liked. The only problem was that she was extremely lazy and never applied herself. She expected me to do everything. She never offered any emotional support and ended up being more of a roommate than a lover, and a bad roommate at that. She would sit around and play MMOs constantly and not want to do anything else. I tried to play with her but I didn’t have the time to spare and when I did I was too mentally fatigued from work so I would sit with her and ask questions about the game. I showed interest in it and would congratulate her accomplishments. She then started acting like she didnt want me around. I noticed her hiding conversations from me. She was becoming friends with her guildmate and they talked on Skype every day. I figured there was no harm in it because he lived all the way in Sweden. I was wrong. I caught them havung Skype sex one night. She revealed to me her plan to move to Sweden with him abd they would meet on Valentines day. I felt so bad. I’m now in a relationship with my highschool sweetheart. She treats me well and is more responsible but she’s not quite as smart. Her treating me better makes me happy but I still feel like something is missing. I like a woman who I can debate politics or philosophy with, not someone who debates about what happens on Real Housewives. She treats me better though, so im happy in this relationship. I can keep the philosophical debates for my friends.

    • bongstar420 says

      She sounds really feminine to me. Though, maybe you should encourage her to do what you have specified was the probable outcome. If she is so smart, why doesn’t she realize that her replacement “relationship” is totally untenable? How many “relationships” that start out like hers actually succeed-very few.

  9. Independent says

    @ Very Serious: You are completely wrong. The majority of us women are not high maintenance, we pay our own bills and all we want is a man who will do the same!!!

  10. B-Dawg says

    Being a complete and total loser, I’d like to no where to find these women. Is there a special dating site I can go to?

    • LOL says

      Yeah. POF. Just put up pics of yourself with no shirt showing off your tats while standing in front of your car – you’ll do just fine!

      • LOL Too says


        As an average nice (but not doormat) guy who tried POF in the past sans shirtless/car/tattoo pics, this is absolutely accurate. B-Dwag, it’s very important you lie about your height too if not at least 6′ tall. I am, and even that’s not good enough for some on there. If you’re going to wear a shirt…MMA, Affliction or Ed Hardy will surely score you extra points. I know, I know. Their profiles say they aren’t into that stuff but most of them are lying!

        What little attention I did get on that site was from the typical women you’ll find on there – the female loser.

        Even if you can find one that doesn’t show signs of a drama princess suffering from BPD at first (let alone kids, tattoos everywhere, etc.), chances are, they’re likely still logging in and waiting for that moment to ‘upgrade’ from you to the next sap. No doubt many men do it too I’m sure.

        POF is a great site if you’re looking for a short-term fling. It’s true, crazy women are great in bed. That said, don’t go jumping head first into serious relationships anytime soon. I tried, with a very attractive women I couldn’t believe was single let alone using a dating site. Two months later, it became obvious why. Bat-shat crazy with depression, daddy issues, etc.

        Thankfully, I’ve found a great woman offline who doesn’t think she’s part of a reality show and is happy with me as I am.

        Thanks for the chuckle LOL – brings back memories of a time I hope never to return to.

  11. DENID says

    I am a natural fixer in life. I have an excellent job and an awesome family. I fell hard for someone recently that I felt was my mate for life. At first he showed me his home and land. He told me about his child (I am a single mother myself). He had a huge amount of land and a family business. I thought my prayers of finding someone that was hard working like me were over. We enjoyed so many of the same things, and were like peas in a pod. Then one day…. I WOKE UP. I noticed after a while… He has a family business that his mother runs. His mother controlled his money, and paid all the bills for his home and land from the family business. I would work all day, and he would nap most of the day. So basically after time, I realized. He didn’t work. He sat around and watched TV and napped all day. His once very nice home ended up dirty and very unclean after a while, until his mother visited once a month, then it would be clean again. He wasn’t willing to clean his house, and/or cook dinner, breakfast, or lunch. There was never food at his house. He also had never been married. He had a child, but never married the mother. His child was a demon when he visited. The man had so much resentment for the childs mother that he let him get away with ridiculous things so that when he returned him to his mother, the child misbehaved with her. Then it just kept going on and on in this relationship. I kept doing more and more and more. We began arguing because he never had money, but nevery wanted to get a job. Then one day…. During a heated argument…. He was stating something that I had said previously, and was using it against me as he had always done before. But this time…. He called me a joke. It was not the worst words that he had ever called me.. But it was the truest words he had ever said. I was a joke. It was me.. I was the one that let this lowlife person consume me. I was the local joke in town and with my old friends (who he wouldn’t let me talk to anymore). People all around me couldn’t believe that I had fallen for someone like that. They were laughing at me and not with me anymore becuase I had gone out with this individual. I was a joke. It was the best words that he ever could have said. I cut the relationship immediately and walked away from that person. I have looked back and do miss him, but not alot. It was time to move forward and that person was not for me. I missed out on a year and a half of my life. And that is time that I will never get back, but it is the best lesson of a year and a half of my life. It taught me that my values were higher than others and I deserved better.

  12. Lori says

    I am sooo tired of hearing how women that date deadbeats have low self-esteem, think they don’t deserve any better etc. That is complete BS. Okay, maybe some women do, but when a woman keeps picking the same type of loser, she is getting something out of it for herself.

    My former best friend for thirty years has picked guys with the following qualities: No money, no education, dead beat dad, drug addict, done time in prison, uses everyone and anyone, wants meaningless drug-induced hard-core sex. Get the picture? Oh and don’t forget that the guy has to have a slim athletic body, even though she is lazy and out of shape. She is very shallow. I agree with Victoria, it is about wanting control…with a minimal amount of effort.

    At first, I thought, she must have some underlying self-esteem issues. But one after another deadbeat came and went, and she pursued all of them like a horny housecat. I began to realize that the men she chooses are the ones she wants. She gets a feeling of power and superiority over them. And if there is trouble, with the relationship, or even the law etc., she can use the guy as a scapegoat and blame it all on him, because who would blame her when he is obviously such a flawed person and she is so superior to him? Every problem is HIS FAULT. That’s all there is to it. When is someone going to write a book about that?

    • LOL Too says

      “and she pursued all of them like a horny housecat. I began to realize that the men she chooses are the ones she wants.”

      So she’s just an idiot? This is why I don’t feel sorry for her.

  13. haars says

    It happens less often than men going out with gold diggers. The number of women who pay alimony to men is still a small fraction of men paying alimony to women. Men pay about 97 percent of all alimony. So you should support men that dont want to pay for everything in our modern age where women make just as much money as males.

  14. jennifer says

    This happened to me! I was with a once working man who made money, bought me things, while we worked at the same place. I made more than he but he supported his child, and helped with bills while living with me. That all changed once he got fired, started his drug habit again. he then decided while he made absolutely no money to cheat, lie, steal, etc and that’s when I had enough. Weird that someone who had nothing and I gave him everything would do that.

  15. Lee McCullough says

    Women go out with dead beats and losers because they have no self respect. A man can spot the difference between a woman with self respect, (a lady) and a skank in the blink of an eye. And any man worth his salt won’t have any thing to do with a sleazy skank. That doesn’t leave the vast majority of women out there with a whole lot of choice. I often see posts asking where all the “nice guys” are? We’re avoiding you, honey. Big time. You didn’t really think we were going to take you home to meet our mothers did you? TMF

  16. kimberleigh says

    Only insecure women date losers. Either it’s a victim/savior type of relationship or these chicks think that’s all they deserve. Stop being a doormat for some loser who doesn’t even appreciate you. Because if you let it continue, your loser boyfriend is going to use and abuse you…

  17. matt says

    Hi guys,
    Here are my 2 cents.

    These thoughts are related to the article but a bit diverging at times.

    I read several articles on women empowerment, women issues, feminism, etc. Some of the conclusion which I have drawn are:

    In the past 5 decades after the feminist movement and higher female labor participation there has been a sea change in how selection of a partner/wife takes place.
    This is due to increased social and economic mobility where people born in lower income groups can make their way to higher levels through hard work. Again this happened throughout history but earlier the barriers were almost insurmountable. Now the barriers are much less rigid and to an extent almost non-existent.

    The ideal way to understand this is my dividing the population into different percentile groups by earning. Top 20%, 60-80%, 40-60% etc.
    Some basic generalized assumptions (should be correct in 95% or more cases according to my experience and observation):
    Men like to earn more than their female partners.
    Women like their partner to earn more than them.

    This factor affects two groups greatly:
    A) Women who are in the top 20% earning band. These women need to find partners in the same profession so both can equally share towards a higher living lifestyle. However men in this band might rather go for a women with a bit lesser income so the career of the male partner is prioritized. (I am a male and do not believe there is anything bad in this thought)

    B) Male who are in the bottom 20% income band or deadbeats according to the article. These would be unemployed, minimum wage or temporary contracts. They generally cannot find partners based on income, intellect, etc. and hence have to rely on charm, creativity, etc. But again this works for a smaller time length. Women in early 20s might go with this man out of curiosity,to have new experience,etc.etc. , but by the time she is in late 20s or early 30s they would rather be single or look for higher earning partners.

    Hence the current system pushes males to earn higher so they can select from a larger group of females. It disincentives higher earning females by reducing their chances of finding a male.

    From a historical perspectives when social mobility was almost non-existent and there was great class hierarchy, every male/female would search for a partner within their earning/ family earning group. This would protect their wealth over a longer term.
    This arrangement provided partners for people in every band, even males in the lowest band.

    However within the current system there is a constant struggle to move upwards. AGAIN nothing bad in this situation: it has given us social mobility, more inventiveness, entrepreneurship, better quality of life, more goods,etc. But it also leads to :Faster pace of life, lower cohesiveness within society, constant jumping from one partner to other(both for males and females),etc,etc…

    By the way liked the article very much.

  18. Chris Mitchell says

    I struggled in my early 20’s, suffered a nasty divorce from a cheater and was a single mom for many years. One rule I learned, if a man doesn’t have a job when you meet him, he might give you a sad story but if he isn’t back to work in a reasonable amount of time, don’t waste your time. Don’t waste your time on Mr. Handsome who may have been spoiled by women all his life. The guy that romances you might not be the right one either if he doesn’t come through on promises. Sometimes it turns out the guy who maybe isn’t Mr. Handsome but is nice looking and polite, treats you like you are important to him, comes through on his promises the best way he knows how and probably isn’t romantic but maybe a little shy, or the guy that doesn’t draw in women like a piece of meat would with sharks? THAT is the guy a woman should look more closely at. I know because I married a guy like that about 31 years ago and he is my best friend, my husband. Men treating women less than well may work in the movies but not in real life. If you have a male friend who isn’t gay, take a second look at him girls!

  19. Matt says

    Here is an idea….women need to learn that they don’t need men to make them feel “safe” and “secure”. This should be a huge red flag that she is probably a really insecure individual that will date a tall, bad boy, with muscles and tattoos over any decent, sane human being and then turn around and blame men for her irresponsible behavior.

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