When I was younger I got my heart broken by an older woman. It took about two months to muster up the courage to ask her out and when I did, all she responded was, “Sorry, I don’t date sophomores.”
No matter what I said, or what nice things I did for Karen, she was out of my league since I was younger. Karen was a 17 year old junior, and I was an incredibly good looking and intelligent 16 year old. I’m not making this up. This is exactly what my mom told me every time I brought her cupcakes.
The rejection was devastating until a bright light named Stephanie joined my high school as a freshman. Stephanie was Karen’s younger sister and she was hot! In fact, Stephanie was even more beautiful than her older sister, and I just had to pursue.
For one semester, Stephanie and I had a frolicking good time. We hung out after school together almost every single day. She’d come watch my tennis matches and I’d take her to McDonald’s afterward for some hot apple pie and McLovin. Let’s just say that older sister Karen wasn’t very happy with either of us. ‘Til this day, I don’t know why! Ladies, please explain!
BOYS TO MEN
Women think men are immature. Perhaps it starts off in the 1st grade when we’re running around yelling with blue slurpee stains on our Sesame Street t-shirts. Or perhaps the perception starts in the 7th grade where we start snapping one too many bras. Maybe women think men are immature because even at 45, with our receding hair and ever expanding girth, we act like college dudes chasing tail even though we no longer have game.
Yes, men are immature, but only because women let us be immature. Being a goofball is the path of least resistance. Since we were wee lads, girls have always discriminated against younger boys in school. “He’s a freshmen? Gaawd, eww! So immature!” Oh gosh, how lame.
As a result of our consistent rejections by “older” women, we don’t like dating older women. We’ve been conditioned to be afraid, therefore we stay away.
Yet a funny thing happens as men get older. We get to date more and more women since there are more and more younger women to choose from! Meanwhile, as women get older, given they believe younger men are irrationally “eww”, their choice gets smaller and smaller.
Is the dwindling selection of men as women get older simply karma for rejecting us boys in school? Or is the supply shrinkage a decision by women to stubbornly continue to refuse dating younger men?
To answer these question, I surveyed roughly 25 men and 25 women ages 21-45 to get their viewpoints. Let’s go through some of the results.
THE GOLDEN CROSS OF LOVE
The Golden Cross Of Love happens for men at age 35. With 10+ years of savings and a career he is proud of, 35 year old men are feeling confident. Fitness levels are generally good given illnesses, sports injuries, and work haven’t had enough time to plague a body yet. The only thing missing from this single man’s life by definition, is a life partner.
By the time you’re in your 30s, you’re able to buy a comfortable car and a property to call your own provided you’ve been saving and working since college. It doesn’t mean you have to buy these things, but just knowing the fact that you can provides a 35 year old man a wealth of confidence.
Any single man in their 30s also has enough rejections from women to fill a notebook that could turn into a screen play. After a while, men become inured to a woman’s dismissal, which ironically makes them more attractive because of an added level of confidence, that leads to better dialogue and approachability.
Of the 25 single men I surveyed ages 30-40, they all agree that around 35 is the best time for a man to be single. One of the key reasons is because they find women ages 35 and younger to be the most ideal. Above 35 is less ideal and not bad so don’t be offended please if you are 36+. The 25 men simply admitted that they prefer women in this age range.
What about the Golden Cross Of Love for women?
Interestingly enough, the 25 single women surveyed ranging from 26-42 admitted that 35 is the age where it becomes less ideal for single women. In fact, a number of females responded that after 35, their dating lives fell of a cliff, partly because guys wanted to date younger women, which is consistent with women’s desires to date older men.
The Golden Cross of Love for women is scattered. Many said between ages 25-28 is the most ideal age for dating. However, some also said being 30-33 was also very satisfying since they felt secure with themselves. Nobody said over age 35 is ideal, although those above 35 have found loving older men as well.
The women in their mid-30’s said they mostly dated men in their 40’s, which begs the question: What happened to the men ages 35-39? Nothing happened to them, as it goes back to the Golden Cross Of Love at 35, where men have been condition to date younger women. The 35-39 year old man is dating the under 35 year old woman.
Other Points from the Survey
* Whether a woman is 24-29, it doesn’t matter. A 29 year old is just as attractive to a man as a 24 year old. The 24 year old has no competitive advantage over the 29 year old in other words.
* There is a perception difference between a 29 year old and a 30 year old woman, even if it’s just a one year difference. At age 30, women and men are viewed much older than the one year difference. Men do have a slight preference for the 30 year old than the 35 year old, all else being equal due to the optionality of having kids.
* There is a lower limit ideal age for men. The formula men like to use is half his age + 7 i.e. a 36 old prefers to date women 25 years old or older.
* Some women don’t care about age, just like some men don’t mind dating older women. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but they are a ~20% minority. Women respond by saying that “So long as there is chemistry, age doesn’t matter.” Men, not so much. Men focus more on the age given there are enough women ages 21-35.
* At 60 years old, the activity for men drops off a cliff since 60 is the age women surveyed would be the limit in terms of dating since the oldest woman I surveyed was 42. However not all is lost. Many say that 60 is the new 40, so perhaps in 10 years, women will decide that it’s OK to date younger men, and all this nonsense will be for not!
MEN LOOK FORWARD TO GETTING OLDER
Thanks to women only wanting to date older men, and to fantastic comments from self-proclaimed attractive women in their 20’s and early 30’s who say they enjoy dating men 10-15 years their senior, men look forward to getting even older than 35! Can you imagine the Golden Cross of Love being 35, where you get the most selection, yet attractive women pine for men in their mid 40’s as well? Fantastico!
Instead of harboring resentment for women who rejected you when you were younger, like they rejected me, you should embrace the rejection and be thankful. Nobody really looks forward to getting older because that’s just one year closer to death. But thanks to women, single men everywhere are looking forward to getting old so they can play the entire field!
Readers, why do you think women are so focused on dating older men? Is it really an immaturity thing? Do you think 35 years old is the Golden Age of Love for men? What do you think it is for women? Does dating activity really drop off for women after 35 in your experience?
Why do women bash men who date younger women, when women reject younger men? If you are woman, what is the widest age gap you’ve ever had with a man you’ve dated?
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Being in a profession of mostly women clients women in there twenties to early thirties sleeparound a lot , the think the men are ok with this but they are not they do it because it is easier now but they won’t have a relationship with them men and women do not think alike and probably never will , even now 2020 the quality men that women want don’t want a women with a casual sex mentally it’s not fair but true that is why you see so many women marry men that are beneath them looks wise because the men are just happy to be with such s beautiful women again a guy would never admit this but most of my male clients who are attractive feel this way quality guys who attract women don’t want to be friends with men who slept with there wife or girlfriend , women call these men insecure or jealous they are far from insecure or jealous they just don’t have to put up with that nonsense I feel sorry for the women because they think the guys think it’s ok but they won’t have a long term relationship with them
Most of these women that are very picky now when it comes to relationships, will just grow very old all alone by themselves with a bunch of cats since they have just too many very high standards now to begin with. Just too many stuck up loser very pathetic women out there now with too much drama which will make many of us single men that will love to grow old all by ourselves to begin with. Most women nowadays are just very awful altogether. MGTOW.
There are just too many very severely mentally disturbed women nowadays that have these problems making the dating scene very difficult for many of us single men really looking for love today, now that the great majority of the women are really like this today which is very scary how very awful women are these days when most women in the past really weren’t like this at all making love very easy to find back then. Women today have really changed in a very big way, and certainly Not for the good at all since Feminism has really damaged these very pathetic women very badly now unfortunately. Thank God that the great majority of the women in the past weren’t like these women today at all which is why the world has really increased in population over the years thanks to the women back then that most women back then were certainly Real Ladies and the very complete opposite of today altogether which made love very easy to find for the men in those days, with no trouble at all since most women back then really made this world happened at that time.
Now that Feminism is everywhere these days which makes the dating scene very impossible to meet a woman for many of us single men now. And since there are so many Gold Diggers today which many women will only want men with money since they’re nothing but users anyway. MGTOW is a real lifesaver today.
I disagree. I’m someone who earns alot of money but i’ve been single my whole life. I’m 33 years old. Women like unavailable men or men that appear that they have many options – This doesn’t imply being rich. Men that qualify women and basically can say to the women “What are you offering” and less trying to impress her win the women. I met with a dating coach just recently. He was shorter than me, earned way less than me but was swimming in girls in his bed each weekend because he makes them feel that he is better than them and the women buy it lol.
Many women are crazy foolish in dating. They fall for idiot lines from loud mouths. At first they brag about these loud mouths as the hottest, cutest (fill in the blanks) dudes on the planet. When SOME of them FINALLY find out that most of the dudes are a 1/10th of what they represent (often they are broke, deal drugs or have a disease which they gave the women, etc) THEN suddenly the dude are AHOLES and the women stop bragging to everyone on the planet about them LOL. Of course, the dude is the one who ‘lost out on the best thing they ever had’ blah blah blah. Those same women then RAIIONALIZE their foolishness (idiocy?) so they can live with themselves and deflect the deserved questioning or ribbing from family and friends. Meanwhile the dude feels like a rock star because he banged the hottie. He can put another notch on his belt. Dude also feels like a WINNER in the game of life because he banged the hottie. I never felt like a winner because of that but sure the FEW MOMENTS of orgasmic release were great but can get the same from PORN or an escort MUCH MUCH cheaper without the emotional narcissism or terrorism from the women when ‘dating’ her. And actually most (not ‘all) hot women I’ve known met or banged were a MAJOR pain in the azz. Not sure they were worth the banging when there are better options. Signed A Red Pill Person.
That is because most women nowadays are just complete low life losers.
Well there are many of us men that would really hate to grow old all alone since it really has become very difficult for many of us single men to find love today, now that the women of today have really changed from the past.
Where do I start…. welcome to 2019? So I am 48 and according to your article I am not datable and my dating life has fallen off a cliff. You should see my online dating AP then. Filled with men in their 20s and 30s. I dated men in their 20s and they are not “ewwww”. 6’2 with six pack abs is not “ewww”. I am not a cougar or -20%. I can easily get men in their 40s all the time too. Last night one that was very fit with all of his hair was heavily flirting with me. I make over 6 figures, own my own single family home, have savings, a comfortable car and I don’t think I am better then anyone else. I am happily divorced and enjoy being single hoping to fall in love again. I don’t need money so his job is not important to me – physical attraction and personality is. As long as I continue to look good and open to age I am confident I will find it.
“Where do I start…. welcome to 2019? So I am 48 and according to your article I am not datable and my dating life has fallen off a cliff. You should see my online dating AP then. Filled with men in their 20s and 30s.”
I am sure your profile is filled with men in their 20’s and 30’s who will ‘date’ you. However getting them to commit to you may very well be another story.
“I dated men in their 20s and they are not “ewwww”. 6’2 with six pack abs is not “ewww”. I am not a cougar or -20%. I can easily get men in their 40s all the time too. Last night one that was very fit with all of his hair was heavily flirting with me.”
Sure a 6, 6, 6 guy will ‘date’ you as long as sex is available. Take sex off the table and tell them you are only looking for love and won’t give it up until they commit and let’s re-evaluate how wide your prospects are. Men are generally fine with sleeping with women they would never enter into a committed relationship with.
“I make over 6 figures, own my own single family home, have savings, a comfortable car and I don’t think I am better then anyone else.”
Yes, and? None of those things are what men look for in women. That’s what women look for in men more often than not. Outside of ‘not thinking you are better than anyone else’ all of those qualities are insignificant to men when we evaluate long term relationship partners.
‘I am happily divorced and enjoy being single hoping to fall in love again. I don’t need money so his job is not important to me – physical attraction and personality is. As long as I continue to look good and open to age I am confident I will find it.’
As long as you look good, men will sleep with you. However if you are looking for ‘love’ that likely won’t be with a 6, 6, 6 man in his 30’s. He will happily have sex with you until he moves on and as time goes by your looks fade ever faster.
I know this to be the case because I was one of those 30 year old men who ‘dated’ older women. They enjoyed the attention, ego boost and sex and I enjoyed the sex and the lack of pressure to commit. Once they pushed for commitment, I moved on to someone younger. Wash, rinse, repete.