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How To Prevent Your Wealthy Man From Straying

Updated: 08/18/2021 by Financial Samurai 96 Comments

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Holding onto a wealthy man can be tough. His ego tends to grow as he becomes more attractive to other people. This post shows how to prevent your wealth man from straying.

A female friend asked me over a drink one day whether I had any tips on how she can lock down her husband forever. I immediately started imagining her throwing her hubby in a dark cage after sunset and maniacally laughing as she twisted a thick key to keep him hidden from the world.

Her husband is a wealthy fella who is charming enough to have a whole lot of extracurricular fun if he wanted to. She’s attractive and successful as well, but still she has fears.

My friend’s situation reminded me of a UC Berkeley study that found wealthier people are more prone to cheating, taking candy from children, and failing to wait their turn at four-way stops.

This is pretty obvious if you think about the correlation. When you’ve got more money, you’ve got more options. When you’ve got more options, you’ve got more temptations. And when you’ve got more temptations, the chances of fulfilling those temptations goes up.

Hard To Stay Humble

Men who know you’re the best thing they’re ever going to get are much less likely to cheat. They’ll probably appreciate you much more, be more attentive to your needs, wash the dishes, do the laundry, vacuum the floor, take out the trash, keep the bathrooms clean, give you foot massages, buy you flowers every week, take you on romantic trips to Target, and maybe even let you go out for drinks with your handsome physical trainer. Nirvana right?

I’m always on the lookout for any type of correlation between relationships and money because the topic is so fun! Several years ago a blogging buddy sold his personal finance site for $4 million dollars. Soon after, he divorced his wife and decided to travel the world with another woman.

Coincidence? Or did money give him the courage to break free? It’s like Obamacare allowing millions of Americans to no longer be tethered to a job they despise anymore. Screw you boss! I’m outta here!

Let’s discuss three strategies women can deploy to lock down their men and create happier relationships. 

How To Prevent Your Wealthy Man From Straying

The highest chance for a woman has of losing her man is when he is between 32-52 years old, depending on age of marriage. At 32 years old, a man is finally coming into his own after 8-10 years of work. He still looks relatively young and is probably finally where he wants to be in his career.

He’s making more money and can afford a car and probably an apartment as well. He’s much more confident than he was in his 20s. I put the upper limit at 52 just because of the confluence of age, fitness, attitudes towards dating, and fading energy. Many of the playboys I know get this “what the hell am I doing” moment after reaching 40 and 50 if they are still single.

Most men are average to below-average looking compared to women. But if you give an average man some money and some platform shoes, he’ll feel better than average. And if you give an average man a lot of money, then he may start thinking he’s God’s gift to women.

If you’re insecure and feel that your man is going to stray, then I suppose you can sabotage your man’s wealth building efforts by talking bad about him to his bosses and colleagues. You can secretly syphon money out of your joint bank account. Or you can prevent him from sleeping so he’s grouchy and doesn’t perform well at work. But that might make you guys both miserable. Instead, here are three better ways to keep your man when it comes to money.

1) Make more than your man.

It doesn’t matter if your man is making a tidy $200,000 a year. If you are making $225,000 a year, your man will feel a little bit insufficient. He wants to at least make the same. The poorer you make him feel, the more you can control him. It’s much rarer for men to have sugar mamas. If a man stumbles across one, he will hold onto her for dear life.

I’ve got a couple friends who married female doctors and they give me high fives every week when we meet up in the middle of the day for tennis. I’ve got another friend who married into mega wealth and his life revolves around throwing parties, taking private jets to the Super Bowl, raising money for charity, taking care of his children, and traveling the world. He is never going to stray from his wife because he doesn’t have his own way of making a steady source of income!

2) Come from a wealthier or more powerful family.

If you can’t make more than your man, then at least come from a wealthier or more prestigious family. If your parents are CEOs of multi-national corporations or won gold medals at the 1984 Olympic games, your man will feel extreme pressure to try and make himself worth more to you and your parents. It doesn’t matter if he’s already perfect.

What matters is that he won’t feel perfect, and will therefore be more appreciative. Coming from a family of politicians or a politically connected family also does the trick. Power is often more intoxicating than money because less people have power.

3) Demonstrate amazing talents.

If you can neither make more money than your man nor come from a wealthier or more prestigious family, then you must develop an amazing talent he both admires and envies. Figure out what type of lessons he took growing up. Maybe he always wanted to be a violinist, but failed after book five of the Suzuki Method. Maybe he wanted to be a painter, but was peer pressured into only playing sports as a man.

If you can be that amazing musician, dancer, or artist, he will have an enormous amount of appreciation for you. Do something well that he enjoys, but doesn’t do well himself.

Consider Less Wealthy, But Kind Men As Ideal Partners

If you are fearful of a dishonest boyfriend or husband, perhaps the best type of man to keep forever is a lower income fella who is average looking and kind. A sixth grade teacher making $60,000 a year who likes to play softball with his buddies is a good example.

Teachers are inherently caring, but are woefully underpaid for what they contribute to society. It’s much easier for you to make more than $60,000 a year than to try to outdo some private equity guy making $1,000,000 a year. Those guys get so much action it’s unbelievable.

Money emancipates many men. No longer do they want the average looking woman even if the men are themselves below-average looking. They want the super model. No longer do men with money show tremendous patience at four-way stop signs. They’ll barrel on through because they think they are now better than people like me who drive Honda Fits.

You can’t totally fault guys for eating too many cookies when a plate of warm chocolate chip cookies are taken out of the oven and presented to them every day. You can only understand their temptation and try and make them smell a sizzling steak instead.

Finally, it may be better to find a man who has already been wealthy for many years because he’ll have grown accustomed to his wealth. Men who start off with little money and suddenly have a lot are ones to watch out for. Such a man is going to work through all his demons and desires until he finally returns to center. 

Sometimes you’re just going to have to trust your gut and hope for the best. What matters most is if he still loves you at the end of the day.

Wealthy men are a dime a dozen nowadays. Please accumulate your own wealth so you can be free to choose as you wish! I hope you’ve found good strategies to help prevent your wealth man from cheating.

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  1. Leroy says

    September 27, 2022 at 7:29 am

    I think a few people here need to read more about human psychology, seriously, I read stuff like this and it makes me sad that we spend so much time trying to control things we should not and can not. People cheat, daily on all sort of things, pick people who cheat less, its a brain thing. The fact that you are so worried about keeping a man for money and comfort says so much about you are a person. Come on, there are stars bursting into life, yet we are concerned about comforts. Money does not even mean anything except those that believe they deserve it more. Evolution does not consider money as a factor, it never will. Finical systems are man mad and inherently flawed, look how complex account and law has become. Juggle those balls, but again, if you know anything about what im talking about here, you will also accept that our species will probably outlast this current finance system. Stop trying to get ahead in life when you already have 10.

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  2. Professor says

    December 27, 2019 at 9:25 am

    So true. I have been my ex-hb through 5 years of PhD. We were both very poor and lived on 1800 a month from the PhD stipend. However, as soon as he started working for the hedge fund (finance), he started cheating. After a month on his first job, he went to a business trip to Frankfurt and hired an escort. This idiot did not even use a condom first time and gave me an STD. He has been hiring escorts for 2.5 years without me knowing till I caught him when he finally did it in Boston (before he only stuck to his business trips hiring escorts). I caught him when I was 5.5 months pregnant and I almost lost the baby. The worst part: for the all last 2.5 years he has been cheating, we were trying for a baby. Eventually, we did IVF. He cheated before IVF, between IVF cycles, and after the IVF when I was pregnant. I am especially angry because it is one thing to cheat and another thing is to decide to bring a baby knowing that you are cheating. Also, infertility was his problem and not mine. I wish I could say I wasted 7 years with him but I am having a baby so I am glad at least something beautiful came out of this relationship. Becoming rich makes men cheat.

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  3. Ben Luthi says

    November 21, 2014 at 8:23 am

    I was having a conversation just a couple of days ago with some co-workers about the fact that wealth doesn’t make people bad, but it does have the power to magnify their unsavory characteristics. An unfaithful poor man may not have the money to woo a mistress, but if he’s unfaithful at his core, he’ll find other ways to do it.

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  4. Mina says

    November 19, 2014 at 5:39 pm

    I think it’s pretty funny that you posted this article, considering how un-PC it is! However, I do think there is a lot of truth in what you say. I lived in Hong Kong for 4 years, and I saw what all the finance guys were getting up to. My husband is not in finance but he makes a pretty good income. I don’t want him to make more!! (Even though it would be fun to have more money.) It’s even worse in HK and Shanghai than in the US because Being a foreign man there adds extra desirability. *Sigh* We were there when we were younger, but if we did our Asia expating as 40 year olds I’m not sure what would have happened. So many of my old friends have ended up divorced. And, I should mention that we are in love and very happily married! But, it’s so hard to resist constant temptation….

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  5. Lisa says

    November 18, 2014 at 1:03 pm

    Interesting take on the subject. I love it when the emotion of the situation is taken out of it and we can look at it as objective as possible.

    Right now, I’m the breadwinner, so hopefully my fiance decides to stick with me after all ;)

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