Next time you go out to eat, notice who digs in first, who refrains until others have their share, and who decides to serve others before eating. The person you want to marry is the person who helps everybody first, and then helps herself. They are so rare that if you find someone with such thoughtfulness, never let them go.
Chances are high that everybody will help themselves first at a restaurant. This is the default setting in America. Nobody can fault someone for feeding themselves first before others. It’s a survival instinct that is ingrained in all that we do. Me first. You second.
I want to share a reader question about how he feels his wife takes him for granted now that he makes a lot of money. She used to be the one who helped others first. But now, it doesn’t seem like she cares anymore.